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writes: I am attracted to this guy at work. i have dreams about him and when i see him i can not help but look him over.his arms, chest,fingers,tight wranglers.and just imagine what it must be like to have him. He drives me crazy. why can i not stop thinking about him. I know it is wrong to want this guy so much since i have been happily married for 11 years and have 2 kids. We talk a lot on the phone at work and i sometimes try to think of some reason i can call him just to hear voice. We started sending emails at work on work related items and i ased him "are you Married" He said i don't think we should talk about this on company email..then followed with a "you can trust me" I have seen him looking at my legs when i move if he is in my office or we are in a meeting. He sometimes calls me for something really silly at work to. What Is going on with me? Is he attracted to me too? He does know I am married. I think maybe it would be good for me to get this off my chest and just come out and tell him i am attracked to him? Help???
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2006): you got a choice to make your fantasy or your family come on your old enough to know better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2006): I concur with the comments posted here. Any married woman who is openly interested in sleeping with other men is a frightening concern in any marriage so I am deeply worried more about your husband and kids. They stand to get hurt the most. An you need to understand, there are boundaries in your marriage and you are breaching them, bigtime. You start out your posting stating that you are happily married..but you also say you desire to give your intimate self and possibly your heart (if you're not careful) to this guy and dear, that should be reserved for your husband. So now there is another man in the middle of your marriage-you need to get him out of there. Be strong and 'walk away' from this potential affair. You sound like a bored woman who is caught by 'lust, infatuations and irrational emotions" with this guy at work. People do this all the time and blow up their marriages and devastate their families. These are 'just feelings' and that's my point..you need to use some rational thought with those feelings. Stay strong and stay in 'reality' with your feelings. This will help preserve your marriage and family. I hope you stay on track and not allow this fantasy destroy you happiness. Be smart and stay strong.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (14 January 2006):
 I would agree with Ed. The whole 'you can trust me' line raises my hackles a little. I would say he knows you are married and is maybe interested in having you but that is all it would be. As Ed said is it really worth it? You are obviosuly happy in your marriage and you would be trading a moment of fun and possible excitement for a lifetime of happiness.
Focus on spicing things up with your husband. Don't tell this guy because that will egg him on as Ed says. Temper your passion and try and divert it into your current relationship.
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (14 January 2006):
 You know most of these letters that come in are about the one's who got cheated on. You on the other hand is all about your wanting to. I hope for your sake you don't do it because it's not worth it. For a peice of a$$ you could potentially throw away your life. What will your kids think? How hurt will your husband be? What if he did it to you? What if you divorce and he takes the kids and the house; while your out with chippendale. Definately don't tell the guy at work because that will provoke him. If it were me, I'd go home and tell my wife about my FANTASY DREAM I had and see if she could whip up some great loving for me. I want her to know just enough of my details to do something about it; but never tell her about a paticular person at work.
Your family is way too important for that kind of conduct. Besides, you did write HAPPILY on your title.
Sincerely
Ed
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