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writes:Im just morbidly curious, other then men who are into the size 0 does it really matter if the girl has a bit of a belly, Im not talking like three hundred pounds really just a little bit of extra chub.And what would be your ideal girlfriend, is it really someone who plays video games with you or do you want a girl who has no idea how to work a playstation, I personally have found a lot of guys that ive been into got turned off because im better at call of duty then them its what I like Im not going to change but I am curious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): Angelic your case is different to be honest. I was talking more about women who purposefully make themselves sick in order to be a certain size. Who care more about looking a certain way than their own health.
You didn't have a choice, that doesn't make you the type of person that makes bad decisions just to fit into an ideal of beauty that is made up.
When I said "Healthy, happy, confident, secure and fun." I wasn't talking about an illness, I was talking about lifestyle. For example a morbidly obese person that is only unhealthy because of the choices they made, or a very skinny woman is naturally bigger but has foregone her health to look like that. Such as supermodels. There's nothing wrong with being skinny in my mind, lots of women are that way naturally and it's beautiful. But I've dated too many girls that forced their body into being skinny, I've dated girls who were bulimic, anorexic or simply just hated how they looked so much that they damaged themselves for a quick solution rather than being happy with their natural physique or changing in the right way.
Let me correct that.
Healthy lifestyle, happy, confident, secure and fun. They're my prerequisites, no matter what shape or size the person. I really just don't have time for weight obsessed women, especially seeing as weight is not an accurate measurement of anything other than how heavy you are.
I was quite fat and unhealthy, I trained hard for years to become trim and toned and live a healthy lifestyle, I know how easy it is to obtain but I find most skinny women (the ones I've dated) did so in an idiotic way and very quickly regain weight because of that. What's worse is I find for girls like that their weight has a huge effect on their mood, confidence and happiness, so when their personalities yo-yo with their weight. I just find that women who are a bit chubby but are still confident, happy and secure are far less likely to let their weight dictate their happiness. A woman who is comfortable with an extra bit of weight is the perfect woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2011): I personally love a bit of chub. Size 0 is pretty much disgusting to me. If I wanted someone who looked like that I'd be dating 14 year old boys (Figuratively speaking of course).
I have no issue with stretchmarks, moles, cellulite or any of that kind of thing because it doesn't matter.
I don't mind flat stomachs but I prefer a bit of a belly.
OP what matters most is that the woman isn't so painfully insecure about her body that she won't open up and let you enjoy it fully. I mean I like a bit of extra weight, there's nothing sexier than curves and soft features but if that girl is constantly down about it, complaining and hates it then that's incredibly unattractive. There's nothing sexy about insecurity, it's not cute to have to feed that all the time.
As for call of duty, you would have no hope in hell against me, not because you're a girl or anything just because I'd whoop you. Just saying hehe. I love video games and so does my girlfriend, she's better than me at racing games, does it matter that she is? Hell no, it just means that when I do beat her I get to do a dance and say "in your face!"
OP not all guys are like me and not all guys are like the previous posters who demand women be women. I can say with almost full certainty that while RAINORFIRE sees those things as an ideal he'd probably be open to dating the right girl regardless if she didn't have a flat stomach or she had some stretchmarks. The ideal isn't set in stone for most of us, there are plenty of women out there that don't fit into our ideal but we're still drawn to. The same works for you girls sure, you must have lots of friends that date guys that are nowhere near their ideal but somehow it still works for them.
If you start dating a guy who feels his masculinity is threatened because you're better than him at something then you dump him because he's a child. If you date a guy who demands you lose weight or puts you down for not looking like a model you dump him. Simple as that.
All guys have different views but one thing I can say for certain is that most guys don't like the look of size zero women. We mostly want women, natural women with average bodies, not some disgusting looking anorexic girl who has stunted her growth and is most likely quite ill being a size that is completely unnatural. Healthy, happy, confident, secure and fun. That's the kind of girl we like and looks don't count for anything because we all have different tastes.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 June 2011):
 There are tons of men, VGL men , who don't mind at all a woman looking feminine, with soft, curvy, round shapes ( within healthy limits, we are not talking about a beached whale or someone morbidly obese ). In fact, so far the only men I've heard insisting on the necessity for a girl to have a washboard stomach were rabid gym bunnies who'd spend ALL their free time exercising.
Not my cup of tea- we stayed naturally away from each other. I prefer people who uses their time to pump up their brain rather than their muscles.
As for the games, hey, if you are good you are good, don't pretend to be dumb , or someone you are not, to make the guy feel better about himself . But, without faking you are a different person, don't go all overboard with the tomboy energy, after early teens it sends off masculine, aggressive, unsexy vibes.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (27 June 2011):
 Each man is different, each man has different tastes.
One man may say "I only date size 0-4 because I like skinny women. And I don't like women who watch tv or play on game stations because its boring and lazy. I want a women who goes to the gym every day and who likes sports. I would rather go rock climbing or running in the evening and have a chicken salad after then go out for a meal and movie"
And another man might say "I love women who have a bit of meat on the bones, I hate cuddling a skeleton. I would rather be with a woman like queen latifa. I love a woman who likes a comfy night it, order a pizza, light some candles and play the wii and watch a movie"
For example RAINORFIRE wants a woman with a flat stomach, firm breasts no stretch marks and good teeth. There aren't many women out there with that description and especially one who would be interested in someone with such requests and who also thinks he is superior to women.
All men are different...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2011): It's not really about if you can play games well or not.It's the kind of energy both people send off.(most) Guys are gonna overall be attracted to someone with strong feminine energy.That doesn't mean you have to walk around in heels 24/7 and complain when you break a nail.But if you act like "one of the guys" and most men feel like they are hanging out with another male around you then it is hard for anything to progress to a sexual/relationship level.Also, while most women are initially attracted to a man by his personality/attitude, men tend to judge quickly by looks. You don't have to be a size 0, but make sure you dress in a way that shows off your feminine body.
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (27 June 2011):
 hmm interesting never met a girl better then me at anything so i dont know if it would turn me off..
any way flat stomach firm breast no stretchmarks good teeth thats i deal to me and she doesnt have to be a 0 to have a flat stomach... but im sure this a guy out there for the girls who dont look like that
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