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Daniel the love doctor
writes:The way you carry yourself, dress, talk, or even walk, can either attract a potential mate or repel her. In other words you need to have some swagger. So to avoid being rejected before you even say a word, you need to do the following:1. Carefully look at your wardrobe and figure out what you need to change. What you wear says a lot about you. Which is why you should get rid of the clothes with holes in them, and outfits that are old and outdated. You should also take into consideration your choice of footwear. Most women prefer shoes or leather boots on a man over sneakers.** To get a better sense of style, purchase a recent GQ (or even Playboy) magazine and look at the fashion sections. The clothes that the male models wear are always in style and rated high according to many women. If money’s an issue, go to a non-expensive clothing store and ask a woman who works in the store for her opinion on the best types of outfits to choose. Because after all who would know more about what a woman want- than an actual woman.2. Shave…and pay attention to your smell. Ditch the “5 o'clock shadow” and overbearing cologne. Personal hygiene is one of the most critical parts in attracting a mate. You want to look like you care about your image and how you smell. If a woman can smell you from a mile away…it’s not a good thing.** A womans smell is much greater than that of a man. So if you choose to put on cologne, only spray a little bit on. Inside tip: The best thing to do is use unscented deodorants and soaps because us guys carry a natural pheromone which alone may potentially attract a woman.So you see just making small changes in your style and image, can have a huge affect on how a woman judges you at first glance. So start attracting women today!
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (29 August 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all for your responses! O.k. Let me address your comments...To the anonymous poster- That's an interesting blend of ingredients. And hey, if it works great for you, then keep using what you're using! :^) To tennisstar88- On your first point: Yes, more metrosexual and homosexual men pay extra attention and put more effort into their overall style and image than the typical guy. But hopefully some guys will take heed to this article and start paying more attention to what they wear. Because clothes DOES make the man. On your second point: I'm sure many women will agree with you that a beard is o.k. as long as it's neat and trimmed. But a lot of guys don't consider how their beard may affect them when it comes to meeting women. Especially if they're kissing one. As long as it's well cared for, and you're not going for the "Santa" look guys, then you may attract some women with your face hair. :^) On your third point: We both agree. To UKLifeCoach- Thank you for the valuable information that you shared on Pheromones. I think it's something that many people should research on if their looking to attract a mate. To Abella- I think what you could do if you decide to go clothes shopping for a guy, is have a set budget on what you're willing to spend. There are many places that you could go to find clothes that are affordable and still looks good.* But I just want to say also that you don't have to make your guy look like a male model. And the intent of this article was not for the guys to aspire to look like one. It was written for them to pay more attention to their overall image. If you want a manly guy (which I'm sure there's an overwhelmingly number of women who do also) then you're entitled to be attracted to those that dress/act like one.And finally...To Yos- You are entitled to do whatever you feel is right for you to do. And I take no offense to your comments. You're just voicing your thoughts and opinions. And quite frankly, if your image works for you...then great! I don't think however if you polled women on having holes in shirts, it would be attractive. In fact, for some it may be a deal breaker. How you look, eat, dress, smell, talk, etc...all have an impact on how you are perceived. Not just by a potential mate, but people in general. Women, however, can tell in less than 30 seconds before you even say a word whether or not you're mating/dating material. Which is why I stress the importance of paying attention to your image.And I can tell you have a lot of confidence, which is great. I think that it does play a HUGE role in attracting a potential partner. I actually talk about it in some other articles. But you need MORE than confidence, to not only land the person that you like, but to keep them. --** I will post part 2 of this topic soon. So keep checking the articles section. I'd like to say thank you again for all of your comments!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (29 August 2011):
 For a different perspective: I would have to completely disagree with this article! I do not mean to be offensive, but my experience is totally different.
To be honest I have no difficulty attracting women. I have attractive girlfriends and when single there are no shortage of women who want to date me. I am a reasonably attractive guy, and in good shape, but certainly not exceptional.
But... I do not dress smart. Some of my clothes do even have a few holes in! I deliberately avoid fashionable clothes, and do not like to give an impression that I have much money (although I have a good income). I also never wear cologne, use unscented deodorant, and shave about once every two weeks. Everything that this article recommends me not to do!
What really attracts women is confidence. This confidence comes through, no matter how you are dressed or groomed.
It comes from how you move, how you stand, how you make (and hold) eye contact, and how you interact with the people around you. It's your 'aura', the space you make in the world around you. A woman can pick up on your confidence subconsciously within seconds.
The problem is: this confidence cannot be faked. Well, it's very hard to fake. It's simpler just to be confident. And if you are not, to develop confidence.
There are many ways to do this, but in the end I believe it's about being comfortable with who you are and what you do. That means accepting yourself, not feeling you have to prove anything to anyone. When you are comfortable in your own skin it shows. In other words: stop trying to be impressive, stop trying to be anything. Just 'be'.
I also have learned tai chi for quite a long time now. Whilst I won't say that learning a marshal art is the way to pick up women, it's certainly the case that the 'groundedness' and relaxed posture that this teaches you increases your physical confidence.
Lastly, I believe the most important thing is to be 100% mentally present. When interacting with a woman you have just met, don't spend half your time inside your own head wondering what she's thinking or what you can say that will impress her. Ignore the noise going on inside you and instead just focus 100% on her, what she is saying and how she is being. Really listen. REALLY listen. And react instinctively and without second guessing or planning your behaviour.
In other words: be yourself, be present, be real, and focus on her not yourself.
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reader, Abella +, writes (28 August 2011):
 I agree that too much cologne is a turn off. If all I can notice is the cologne then a man is wearing too much.
There are times when I do not like all his clothing choices, but I need to cope with that as in IHHO he is really good at choosing the right clothing. Instead all I can do is occasionally choose something or suggest something else and make sure he is showered with compliments when he wears it.
He questions why I never take him clothing shopping when I am looking for something. My excuse is that I Like to shop in my lunch hour. The real reason is as above. Plus he would end up trying to encourge me to spend far more than I have decided (in advance) to spend.
And I would rather my guy dress in a manly way not like a male model.
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reader, UKLifeCoach  +, writes (28 August 2011):
 Excellent Article.Pheromones are potentially why some women cant resist some guys. But pheromones can also be authorative or passive or playful or femenine. This can change with what you eat. Muscular men often have a more testosterone charged pheromone. People with a diet high in Fats will have a weak pheromone. People who are natrually confident and have little stress and have under 20% fat on thier body tend to have a perfectly balanced pheromone.Pheromones essentially communicate the diversity of your gene pool to a female.They also communicate high sperm activity which is fundementally controlled by diet.Some scientists have proved that fasting for more that 16 hours per day can increase sperm activity and testosteron and hormone levels.DIet plays a huge part in this alsoHope this helps
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (28 August 2011):
 1. I agree with but just how many men will do this? Let's face it, the only men that actually put effort into their wardrobe are gay. But it still hurts to watch guys where dirty sneakers with jeans, and a nice button up shirt, or wear a black tee and brown dress shoes.
I've only seen metrosexuals and homosexuals read GQ.
2. I actually do dig a bit of a beard, but a trimmed one at that. And sometimes a little unkept stubble can be sexy.
3. Agreed. Please don't go taking a bath in that AXE body spray. Yuck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2011): The heck with alcohol based colognes, regardless if they're expensive designer products. I wear oil based products containing frankincense, myrrh, patchouli, sandalwood, and it drives woman crazy! It's not as pungent and has more of mysterious and seductive quality to it as opposed to "cologne".
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