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writes:Right, basically I've just finished a 5-month open relationship with a lovely, understanding guy. He told me he loves me but he can tell I am obsessed with his housemate and he can't handle it. Being the angel that he is, he is telling me to go for it because he wants me to be happy.I don't want to take advantage of his niceness and I really care about my ex, so I'm gonna try to be discreet and tactful as possible - eg, if anything happens, not parade it around in front of my ex.His housemate has been very obviously flirting with me for months, we hang out a lot and I really want to be with him. Everything he does points to him liking me, and he's single. A couple of things are holding me back though - what if he was only attracted to me because he couldn't have me? I know plenty of guys who mindlessly flirt with their mates' girlfriends. How do I know? Guys - how do I know he likes me? He compliments me a lot, laughs at every rubbish joke I make, stays up chatting with me until it gets light, touches me for no reason, etc etc. Would a guy go to that much trouble if he didn't really like me? My ex reckons he is into me and that he's never seen him act like that round other girls.Also - how do I tell him how I feel? What should I/shouldn't I say?! SHould I tell him at all?Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAIII!!! :D
Me and the Housemate are together and have been for a month! This kinda thing doesn't happen to me! And best of all, my ex is still talking to both us! :p Thanks all! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): You have a WONDERFUL ex! He sounds like a right angel wanting to help you, about the new guy, if he likes you (and your ex seems to think so) then tell him HOWEVER he may be reluctant to date you as you are his roommates ex, you know brotherly love etc, talk to him about it and be open, that's all you can do. You have two really nice guys by the sound of it, so I'm sure it'll all be fine. I think he likes you or he is just a very very nice guy!
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reader, Tigerlily  +, writes (21 March 2009):
Do you still hang out with him as friends? If so I'd say just keep doing that and let him come around to it in his own time. After all... he's the one who has to live with your ex - not you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think he has a feeling that is why. But I don't think he wants to cause trouble so he might play things a bit too cool!
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (21 March 2009):
Does the housemate know why you two broke up? Because of him? I'd say play it cool and let him come to you. A guy who really wants you will come for you.
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