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writes:So...I've been wondering about this. I am a female college freshman..I've been here for about six weeks now. I have been loving college so much, and I am thoroughly enjoying nearly every experience so far (I say nearly..not every class is fun lol).Anyways, my real question is about a guy. Of course, right? So...I am going to college out of state. About 2 weeks into college, I met a guy who's a sophomore transfer student from a major university in my home state (we are both natives of the same state). We kind of happened upon each other at a pep rally because one of my friends is in one of his classes. We instantly hit it off..our mutual love for football, of all things, is what got our initial conversation going. Ever since then, I've found out that we have a lot in common (with still enough differences to keep things interesting). We both love music, football, frisbee..we have the same values and morals as the other. He's on the same ultimate frisbee team as me in intramurals, so we see each other often enough. My college is a small, private college, which is another thing. The thing is...I think I'm starting to develop feelings for him. It's really hard, because I don't know how he thinks about me. My friends say that they can see that I like him (I'm always talking to him when he is around) and that they think that we are "cute" together. I've found that confusion has taken over my heart. I text him sometimes, just asking how his day was...and then I worry that I'm being too goofy lol. I love that he takes his faith seriously (we are both Catholic, and we consider that a big part of our lives). Sometimes when we pass each other in the cafeteria or on the way to class, he looks at me until he passes. If he comes to sit with me and my friends at mealtime, he always sits by me if there's an open seat there..even if half the table is empty. We talk about nearly everything, and I am not afraid to be myself around him. Once, I threw the frisbee with him one night for 2 1/2 hours, just talking. I just...don't know what he's thinking. He's so hard to read.One of my close friends told me that guys usually take longer to realize that a girl is interested. She also told me to pray about it, and see how it ends up. Please don't put me down for my faith and tell me that praying is a waste of time..it's a part of who I am. I'm falling for him, but it seems like he could be interested, but only sees me as a friends for now. Can you give me any advice on how I should handle the situation for the time being though?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): First, this is good u fall on your faith. As do I with guidance and necessary decisions Ive had to make with relationships and women. I hope this guy isnt playing a game and making u chase him. This is outright cruel and immature as it causes confusion and mixed signals. If this guy is a true man, he'll let you know if he's interested by everything. His words, body language, and def eye contact. If he seems more reserved, chances are he could being cautious (as Ive some dudes who ease there way in to a girls life cause of previous relationship experience) or he's playing the field. However, if he's being open with you and you guys have good conversations chances are thats a genuine interest. When it comes to real feelings, thats a different level. That usually comes in the form of words or when I like a woman...I'll send her a nice card and flowers and in the card say something catchy but nothin too serious. Thats just my style. I hope this guy comes around, you seem like a nice girl.Kind regards
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): jest ask him in the relationship im in now the girl i liked also liked me but i wouldn't ask her out and finally i did and the first thing she said to me was i didnt even know you liked me and then she said yes so just ask
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): Hello there. Guys are not hard to read (I am a guy), trust me on this. If a guy is hard to read, it is usually because he is not interested or is playing the field. Guys do not hang around people they dont like. If he did not like you, he would not hang around you. Sometimes we dont say much to people we like in fear of ruining the relationship. Many times when we like a girl, we are careful of everything when we are around them. I guarantee as God is my witness, if you told this guy you liked him he would be on cloud 9.
If everything in this post is exactly as you are describing, he likes you probably more than you think. Just remember this always...guys do not hang around anyone they do not like...especially girls.
Good luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): hii...
the first thought in my mind when i read the title of your question was, "AMEN!!!" hahaa...i am in a situation almost identical to this--from loving college to starting to have feelings for a guy that's really confusing to me. and i have been told the same thing that your friend told you--"pray about it and see how it ends up." i really admire the fact that your faith is so important to you; that's a wonderful thing to hear. my suggestion on how to handle this situation is to take your friend's advice. pray like the sky is falling down!!! i myself have spent a lot of time in prayer concerning my own situation, and while i admit that i still don't have any answers, i know that the answers will be revealed in good time. put all of your faith and trust in the Lord. be prepared for anything, because with Him, anything can happen. the bottom line: He won't let you down. good luck, and God bless. ")
~sarsar~
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