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female
age
36-40,
*ubblygirl
writes:This guy Im friends with and am attracted to has been hot and cold with me, calling me recently only when he wants a booty call. We used to talk about everything from school to friends to family but now, he only talks when he wants 'some'. I dont feel satisfied being a call girl for him but I dont want a relationship because he's a known player. I miss our friends days and I want to let him know I dont want to do this. He called me the past few days to come over and I've brushed him off. Theres no need to get angry at him, I just want to say no.How do I tell him I dont want to do this without sounding degrading or harsh?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 January 2009):
Just tell him you see him as a friend and you are NEVER going to have sex with him.
Then change the subject to talking about something else.
You may have to accept that he doesn't want female friends and that he wants you for sex and nothing more though.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 Just continue brushing-him-off, which will likely cause him to increase his pursuit, which is really all that dominates his activities now, based on your explanation. He may or may not eventually back-off, but just realize that you are presently a sexual conquest (as you know), and that if you give-in, it may simply degenerate as a relationship thereafter. It sounds like he has become like many other guys (including myself many years ago) - just notching his belt with many sexual conquests. It becomes habitual.
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female
reader, lovesalias +, writes (29 January 2009):
 you can tell him that you appreciate and value his friendship but you don't want to continue in intamacy because you feel it could ruin your friendship in the future. I hope this helps! Good Luck!
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