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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hello, so here is a guy that I saw at a party then he added me later on social media and talked to me. At first he kept asking normal question and convo lasted for a 15 minutes maximum. He talked to me again after a week or so and also did the same as before. I met him in another party and he tried to open a convo with me but I knew that I'm not going to enjoy the convo so I kept moving around. He added me in other social medias. On real life, I catch him glancig at me a lot, moving around the place where I am in etc. Now he keeps on asking me lots of question and he also asks lots of personal questions. He flirts, compliments me ALOT. I don't feel comfortable at all. He is a very nice guy. But he's not my type at all and I'm not interested at him. I tried to show him that I'm not interested by sending signs, for example, when he flirts I just say thanks and won't smile, or if he asked a specific question I avoid it or if he did something like over flirting I avoid the situation. He doesn't seem to understand, so I just tried to play cold, and serious. He seemed to notice right now, but still he keeps doing the stuff I mentioned above. He sent me a photo of a girl, and told me that he wish he could have a girl like her, and also told me that he likes for example tanned girls and not pale once, and describing what he likes about a girl's physical appearance. Did he tried to make me jealous? I tottaly responded with 'That girl is so pretty!!, and don't worry im sure you could find a beautiful girl like her.''Then after a few minutes he said he had to go. I'm so confused what he's willing to say to me by his actions. He's a nice guy but we don't have anything common between us. And i don't feel comfortable when he flirts with me. What should I do? I need to stop talking to him or at least try to make him talk to me as a friend, nothing else and no flirty things or these stuff, just a friend talk.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (14 July 2015):
 I agree stop hinting. When he flirts you say "bob i'm sorry that kind of talk makes me uncomfortable"
if he comes out and asks you can easily say "I like you as a friend but nothing more"
make it clear to him he has no chance. It will stop with time.
and if he tried to make you jealous why does that matter?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (14 July 2015):
 Why waste any time with this guy?????
Good luck....
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reader, Garbo +, writes (14 July 2015):
 Men don't respond to "hints" because they don't see your hints. All this guy sees from you is a response every time he says something to you. So the only hint he sees is your response and not what you believe you are implying. If you want him to stop, then don't respond or basically tell him clearly, Don't bother me, don't talk to me, I don't care about anything that you are saying because you are not my type. Then watch him stop.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 July 2015):
 Sending "hint" doesn't work at any age, men are JUST not mind readers (neither are women).
So I would just stop being available to chat online, maybe consider either removing him or limiting his "access" to you.
Not flirting back might make him realize he is not make any headway.
Was he trying to make you jealous, yes but you handled it with grace.
Don't play games though. If he asks BE honest.
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