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writes:I live with my boyfriend of four years lived together two and things the past year have been hard. He has recently told me that he does love me but he has fallen out of love with me and feels the only way to see if we can ever get back to what we were is to be apart for awhile he needs to miss me to know if it can work.. I love this man with all my heart and I am trying to make changes in myself. Do you think spending time apart can mend this? It is going to take a little time before I have the money to move also so how should I be around him this is hard and I hate it has come to this.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (14 July 2015):
 When a guy sez he's "fallen out of love with you..." he's trying to delicately tell you that he's dumping you.....
Good luck....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 July 2015):
 Amen to all that WiseOwlE said.
I think people in general who thinks a "break" fixes anything are either afraid of making tough choices or unable to accept reality.
Taking a "break" doesn't fix the ISSUE that caused the NEED for the break in the first place.
I do think there CAN be times were you and your partner are apart - for instance working on a short term contact overseas etc. that the HEART can grow fonder with that little bit of a distance and "break" from the monotony. But that is NOT what he is suggesting. HE wants out.
Time for you to take your independence back, Get a full time job and be ABLE to support yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2015): Correction:
"What are you going to do? Sit and wait it out; while the theme from "Jeopardy" plays in the background? Sit waiting for his messages, that you won't get?"
For those of you around the globe who've never seen "Jeopardy!" Google it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2015): Your boyfriend is trying to find a clever way to ease his way out of the relationship with no-fuss. He's attempting to breakup without fight. If you're the emotional-type, he knows you'll turn on the drama-queen. That, or you'll break all his stuff; if you've got a temper management issue.
"He has recently told me that he does love me but he has fallen out of love with me and feels the only way to see if we can ever get back to what we were is to be apart for awhile he needs to miss me to know if it can work.. "
Translation: "There's no way out of this mess without you losing it. I don't love you anymore, but there's no way out without a fight, or a lot of commotion. Maybe she'll let me move-out without a hissy-fit; if I just say I love her. I'll just say I need time to think about it. If I can get pass that door, I'm going to run like hell!"
What are you going to do? Sit and wait it out; while the them from "Jeopardy" plays in the background? Sit waiting for his messages, that you won't get?
His mind is made up. Once he's out that door, he's not coming back accept for an occasional booty-call. If he leaves. Change the locks and consider yourself single again.
He's either got another woman in the wings, or will find one on the rebound. Prepare yourself to deal with your breakup. That's what this is, and don't let him tell you otherwise. If it isn't, make it one. He says he has fallen out of love with you. The rest was a pile of bullsh*t!
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