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*mj321
writes:So I started talking to this guy about a week ago and we went out on our first date a few days back and had a great time. We really clicked and expressed to each other that we really liked each other. I stayed with him that night since he does live about an hour to an hour and 30 minutes a way from me. We didn't have sex or anything but we did cuddle and kiss. On the second date, which was 2 days ago, he wanted to introduce me to all his friends so we hung out with them for a while then we went back to his house and watched some movies while laying in bed. Once again, we didn't have sex but we did have more aggressive kissing and we were touching each other below the waist, but nothing close to sex an neither one of us tried to push farther than that. I stayed with him that night again and we fell asleep in each other's arms. The next morning when we got up I ran some errands with him, followed him to his friends house, and then I had to leave to go to work. He gave me a huge and kiss and held on to me for what seemed like forever, gave me a big smile and told me to drive safe. One I got home I sent him a text telling him I had a great time and we should go out again soon. About an hour later he replied to my text saying he had a good time too but that he didn't think he was ready for a relationship. I asked him if I had done anything to rub him the wrong way or anything and he said it wasn't me, he just didn't think he was ready. I asked if he still wanted to hang out and he said he liked me and I was really cool but he didn't think hanging out was a good idea. It really struck me as strange because I thought we really hit it off and even his friend told me that he really liked me. So I guess my question is what should I do? I really like this guy a lot and according to him and his friends he really likes me. I know he got out of a relationship about 3 months ago so it very well may be he isn't ready, or maybe we were moving too fast. He told me he didn't want to move too fast and I told him if at any point he was uncomfortable or felt nervous just to let me know, but he always said he was fine and enjoyed everything. I really want to pursue something with him because I felt a great connection with him. So what should I do? And should I take what he told me for face value?
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reader, sweet and honey  +, writes (10 February 2011):
I think its to soon since his last relationshp maybe she has texted him,or he hasnt got over her.I would try and just enjoy yourself dont put your life on hold and just be thankfull you never slept with him,how let down you would of felt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): It was most likely the spending the nights at his house right away and tagging along with him doing errands that probably felt to him like you were already acting like you were in a relationship. Too much too soon and too much familiarity in the beginning can kill the spark. Be less available with the next guy you date and don't do relationship type stuff until you are in a relationship.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 February 2011):
 If I were you I would just let him make the next move. Let him call you. But don't put your life on hold for the guy. If he's interested he'll let you know.
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