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writes:sorry but this is a very complicated, weird, and long question.so i just got out of a six year relationship with guy#1. he was a wonderful guy, caring, although i was very much in love with him, it somewhat fizzled in the end. conversations ran dry, time was always ticking too slowly, etc. i think this was in part because of the fact that he has lied to me in the past (used my credit card without permission, lied to me about watching porn, lied about quitting weed). i think the second half of it is because ive always had feelings for a guy #2, we've been friends all these years, and we we've been involved in the past. he actually wanted to propose to me when i was 20 years old but i think i was just insecure, got scared, and ran back to guy #1.anyway, the question is...guy #2 and i have been talking a lot the past half year, and after i broke things off with guy #1, i saw guy #2 two weekends in a row, and it seemed like we were back together again. he would even call me/email me everyday and tell me that he loved me and that he misses me. but in the five years ive known him he has a habit of getting close to me, then disappearing. (no phone calls, no im, no emails etc). he told me once that because i broke his heart that he could never be with me again. i guess im just torn because i do believe that he and i are meant to be together. if he were to propose to me right now id probably say yes. should i just move on from guy #2? cause he seems very inconsistent but you know how it is when you love...you dont give a shit about how painful you feel, just as long as you can hear that other person say one word to you in the end, it'll be worth it. but i guess after five years of him doing this to me im fed up with it. i feel like he's punishing me for breaking his heart but at the same time i have made it known to him that i DO love him. i think i was with guy #1 for the latter half of the relationship because i felt alone, and was kind of a buffer for when guy #2 would come back to me. i guess im just scared, and it feels like now guy #2 is running again. anybody else been in this type of situation? should i just move on to someone completely new and fresh, and strip myself of all this emotional baggage? any words of wisdom? help.if you made it this far into my question, thanks for putting up with it.
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reader, Miss Lab  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 it sounds like love to me.
cant get him out of your head?
even if you tried i dont think that you could move on and i certainly do not think you should. It sounds like you are destined to be together and if you think you love him as much as you say then you would wait forever to be with him. It sounds to me like he is fed up of hurting, maybe if you was to make it clear to him that you would like a future with him and that you would love to see you too make something of each others life, maybe then if he sees that you are serious about all this and mention the marriage idea then maybe he will comitt and change his mind on this whole thing all together. Nobody knows what is going to happen all you can do it sit there and wait, but i think that this will work out for you two because it sounds like fate to me, just dont give up until you know for sure that he does not want nothing to do with you, tell him how you feel, because nothing is more important than getting your feelings across to someone
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Yes, I think that you should move on to someone else. Neither of these guys are right for you, and if guy number two really loved you, eventually he'd stop punishing you for something you were already sorry for, but he hasn't stopped this, so yes, move on.
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