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writes:There's this guy (all stories start like this haha), and I don't really like him romantically but as a friend. He's generally pretty affectionate with people he likes, but sometimes I feel like he gives me extra attention. He would always playfully teasing me, bringing the attention to me, he would always hug me, rub my shoulders; he would be pretty strict with everyone but never with me, he smiles at me a lot and gives me that "look" kind of like he's smizing (smiling eyes). One time, I had to say bye to him and we hugged, but as we were talking he put his hand on my cheek and started stroking it, and my chin, and he stared into my eyes the whole time for like 15 seconds. It was really intense., I don't have much experience with guys so I want to know, do you think he likes me. I don't think he does but then again I'm kind of dense when it comes to these things haha. I've seen him stroke a little girls cheek (like in an awww you're cute way) but not to someone whos our age.
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reader, Gauntlet  +, writes (29 January 2014):
 To OP: he tried his chance. Not every women are as honest and serious as you are.
As for the seriousness of his gestures, I do believe it's more than a friendly behaviour. While I don't like so much being touched by anybody, I myself SOMETIMES give a friendly or affective touch to some friends. A little caress or a little pressure on the hand to emphasise the fact this person is somebody dear to my heart. But no continuous staring eye in eye during 15 seconds. Anyway, that's not polite.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2014): Some people are naturally affectionate. They have a special little wink, nudge, or a gesture designed for every person they pass by. Take it all playfully. Don't take him seriously.
This could include a lot of people. Read it anyway you like.
That's because they have a friendly out-going nature, and they express their good-nature through a lot of tactile gestures. Pats on the back. Squeezing a shoulder. Knuckles to the chin. They grin a lot, and light up a room. My oldest brother is like this.
One person may stand out among others, because they may see you like their special little buddy. This is often misleading and people can get these signals crossed. If you're crushing on him, you'll read a lot into his special attention. His touching, and glances. Pet-names and hugs.
You should make nothing of them; until a person comes right out and makes clear what their intentions are. They have to openly acknowledge that all this is leading to something. Otherwise, continue to play dense and let it slide. He has a girlfriend, and I think it's all fairly innocent.
You happen to be a young girl. So he will treat you differently. Like a cute teenage girl. He sees the crush in your eyes, and he'll play on it. It's his nature.
These days, you have to be careful on the job, to avoid being accused of sexual harassment.
I'm not a mind-reader, and if I have any attraction to a person; I make my intentions known like an adult. I flirt and follow it up, by holding their attention; and seeking their permission to explore getting to know each other better.
You're crushing on him, so his actions seem more than just kidding around. I think that's all it is. He has a girlfriend, so let him know that's the only way you intend to take it. If he puts his hands on you inappropriately, then he is out of line.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2014): @gauntlet he has a girlfriend and I'm not interested in him so it's a bit weird. I have to admit that it's a relief to me that someone could treat me in that way, because for a while I felt like no one could show me that much affection, but I don't even think about getting involved with someone who is already attached, that's just wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2014): @gauntlet it's kind of weird to be honest because he's in a relationship, and when i met his girlfriend he acted quite distant, the opposite of how he acts she's not around. I'm not going to lie and not say that it's nice to know that someone could like you in that way, but Like I said I have no romantic interest and I wouldn't let it get any further than that even I did.
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reader, Gauntlet +, writes (29 January 2014):
Looks like a love-parade. Basing my fragile judgement upon the few elements you gave us, I would say yes, he wants you. Does it make you happy, or does it scare you to the bones ?
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