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writes:I've been seeing a guy for a few months now, and we are really compatible sexually. One night, after many a drink, he told me that he has a foot fetish (which I had subliminally picked up on in any case). He got really upset about it - saying that he felt wrong for it and really hates it about himself. I told him that I have no problem with this whatsoever and that he shouldn't be so hard on himself, but it's not really been brought up since. However, I feel as though it would be a great thing for us to venture into the whole feet thing - he hasn't with anybody else so it would be a great bonding thing, and I'd love to be able to do something that he'd REALLY enjoy. How can I bring up this topic? Ask outright what he wants? Just go for it? Try to hint? I'm finding this hard to communicate about because of his hatred of this side of him. Should I just leave it alone and wait for him to bring it up again if he'd like to?Also, if any foot fetishists are out there, can you give me some ideas of what you like, y'know, in case this does get brought up, haha! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): It's really nice to hear of a woman that isn't all about themselves. My wife won't entertain my foot fetish at all, and makes me feel like some kind of weirdo. It's not like I even want to do weird things with them or anything like that. Putting them on my chest and nipples while having sex, or caressing my face with them as we have sex is all I would like her to do but she won't have any of it. Makes me sad that my whole life is going to be lacking something in the bedroom department just cause my wife is not willing to step outside the box. If the shoe was on the other foot I would understand, and go out of my way to satisfy her, and not make her feel uncomfortable while doing it. Anyways, good luck with your boyfriend, sounds like your taking the proper steps to satisfying your man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): First of all, keep it between the two of you for now. A lot of guys are not sure why they have this attraction or if it make's them strange in the eyes of others, he has more than likely kept this hidden his whole life. Try wearing silky or lacy hose and trouser socks and take your shoes off in front of him, if you find him starring at your feet or trying to get closer to smell them without being noticed, then he's got it bad... He may not admit it for a while, remember he's not sure why he like's this, see if he will give you a foot rub, especially when you first take your shoes off and by the way keep a pedicure. Tell him that you like the fact that he enjoys you and that you love the attention to your feet and that it really turns you on, eventually he will be brave enough to reveal his fettish once he see's that you will not reject him for it, keep an open mind, these things vary greatly, if you feel that he will accept it, let him off the hook, tell him you know he enjoys your feet and you will be more than glad to indulge him in his foot fantacies and that there is no need to be embarraced. It took me a few years to open up to my wife about my foot fettish, but now Im REALLY glad I did, she now indulges me when ever I want, it great, good luck and have fun....
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): Just let him know that you think it's great that he has such an idiosyncracy and also let him know you love having your feet kissed, licked, caressed, etc. That way, he'll also be happy that he's giving YOU pleasure too and that it's not just a case of you indulging him! Buy a pair of open-toed high-heeled shoes and wear them for him, flaunt your feet and then ask him to paint your toenails for you. If he doesn't faint from the excitement, take it from there!
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (30 July 2010):
 yeah!! You could have him paint the nails for you!! Seems I saw that in a movie once...
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reader, Miamine +, writes (30 July 2010):
 yep, me too... if you like it, then it'll make you hotter and more attractive than ever...
I'm crossing my feet now and wishing you both joy... :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think he's more ashamed & nervous than slow - he knows that I've given footjobs in the past for an ex that had a fetish for knee-high socks & heels, mainly. Seem to get a lot of male attention towards my feet but only how has the whole idea actually began to appeal to me. Kind of getting to the point where not only do I want to appease him, but I'm kinda liking this idea in general...
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reader, Miamine +, writes (29 July 2010):
Me again...
If you two are having sex, then try to masturbate him only using your foot.... this drives most men wild, even if they don't have a foot fetish.. and it's absolutely brilliant excersise for your inside thighs and keeps you flexible and fit..
Lets ignore him.. I'm finding this foot thing sexy, and your feet are getting well needed attention. You just continue footplay and injoy yourelf, he can join in when he's ready...
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reader, Miamine +, writes (29 July 2010):
Sorry.. no hitting.. patience works best.. just keep acting like eve and tempt him to be naughty with you...
It would be so much easier if he would only follow your lead.. sigh..
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reader, Miamine +, writes (29 July 2010):
Ok.. he's damn slow... mmmmmm....
Tell him you get really hot and sexy when a man sucks your toes... ahahahaha.. men with hangups..
Maybe hit him in the head with the shoe and he will start to think sensibly... :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Miamine - your advice was good! I've painted my nails in front of him, complete with little diamantes & everything, & I've been using him as my personal footrest, also. I'm one for putting my feet on people in any case, & I rarely wear shoes or socks, so I'm probably a good match for him!! Just would like to take it to the next step if that's something he'd like, too!
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reader, Miamine +, writes (29 July 2010):
Sorry, that's feet in lap, not the shoes.. lol
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reader, Miamine +, writes (29 July 2010):
Also get sexy shoes, all men like that...
If you are doing the sex thing, then take off shoes and put them in his lap, feet massaging penis is a nice feeling..
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reader, Miamine +, writes (29 July 2010):
Best not to say anything if it embarrasses him. But there is no harm on you spending more time on your feet.... wash them in front of him, put on nail vanish in a sexy way, blow to dry, put on cream and massage them in...
Wow, you are so lucky... hehehe... your feet will thank you in the end...
Keep pampering your feet, stroking them, every chance you get.. Eventually, ask him if he can help, and hand him the bottle of cream or nail vanish.. hopefully the silly guy will get the idea that your not bothered and would love to play games his way...
Good luck, no more talk, just do the actions... :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a bunch for your answer! I did tell him that I'd do whatever he likes for his birthday, sooo we'll see where that leads! I definitely have avoided bringing it up because he's ashamed, but I have dropped hints about the fact that I have no issues about it whatsoever - & I think that he knows me well enough to know that anyway!
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (29 July 2010):
He's probably embarrassed about what he said. Even though you're cool with it, he might just feel uncomfortable with his fetish or ashamed. There's nothing wrong with it.
I wouldn't directly mention his foot fetish because it embarrasses him... just tell him that you want to try something he'd really enjoy, and that you're open to anything and want him to be happy. There. The ball is in his court and you haven't embarrassed him.
Honestly I've always thought feet were gross. That's what I love about being single, lol... I don't have to see or smell a guy's smelly feet! But it is TOTALLY cool to have a foot fetish.
I don't know a lot about fetishes, sorry... but...
One of the aunts on here was knowledgeable about the fetish community but I don't know what happened to her unfortunately? I'm sure that someone here knows, though, there are lots of us.
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