A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Here is a guy who had texted me a few months ago, he was just asking me questions about random things and it was just a small talk. Then he started to take stuff more seriously, he just kept texting me for hours, and I thought that he's just trying to be my friend. But things just got out of control, he asked for my number 3 times, until I gave it to him, and then he started to flirt with Me a lot and gives me hints that he wants to date me. He also told me that I'm on his mind all the time. He keeps staring at me all the time and stalks me whenever I am. He keeps saying that he keeps an eye on me all the time, and he just keeps asking Me personal questions. I started to get annoyed of him a lot, because he's been creepy and clingy. I tried to cut communication with him, such as ignoring him, acting cold and unfriendly with him etc. But he just keeps doing the things u mentioned above. I told him that I have a boyfriend (I actually don't) but at least to give him the hint that he should back off. Then I told him that my boyfriend will be so pissed of on him if he found out that he keeps doing what he's doing. But that guy just won't back off no matter how and its just annoying Me. I did told him that he's being a stlaker and annoying but he won't understand. what should I do? He's just being too clingy wherever I am...
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (11 September 2015):
 I've copy/pasted an entry from that last website as it has great resources listed:
Problems
Stalking and harassment
Anyone who has ever been stalked and/or suffered harassment knows the devastating effect it has upon feelings of safety, self confidence, self esteem etc.
Everyone should have the right to go about their daily business in safety and without fear. The constant worry of being stalked can take an enormous toll upon your health and emotional state of mind. Nobody has the right to harass you or stalk you and the Police and courts can take action against anyone who is doing such a thing. Never go through this alone but always get support through friends, family, helplines, counsellors, etc.
If you are being stalked or harassed
Keep a diary of all incidents - dates, times, what occurred, any witnesses to what occurred etc.
If you report any incidents to the Police, Council etc. keep dates, times, names of person you spoke to and what was said and what action you were told would be taken.
If you are receiving silent, threatening phone calls contact BT Malicious Callers Bureau. Again, keep dates and times of calls.
If you do receive malicious calls try not to react, place the phone off the receiver for a few minutes and then replace the receiver without saying anything. Dial 1471 to see if a number has been left. (Don't worry if number is withheld as BT/Police will be able to trace numbers.
Report all malicious calls to the Police as they will work with BT to trace who is making these calls to you.
If you are receiving malicious text messages always keep the text message and report this to the Police and your mobile phone network provider.
If you are being stalked try to avoid going out alone and keep to busy public places.
Get a personal alarm and carry that with you as well as a mobile phone.
If you think you are being followed make for a shop to get help. If you are not near a shop then knock on a house and ask the householder to contact the Police.
If you notice cars following you or outside your house then always take make, model and registration, date, time etc. and report this to the Police if you keep seeing the same car.
Contact the local Police Crime Prevention Unit to check your house out to see whether there are ways in which it needs to be made safer - stronger locks, window locks, security lighting at back and front etc.
It may help to contact helplines/counsellor to give you regular emotional support at this time unless you already have a good network around you of support.
Try not to allow what is happening dominate your life and thoughts. Try and keep to your regular routine, try to do things you enjoy doing and spending time with friends.
Don't allow the harassment, stalking, to make you think there is anything wrong with you. The person who is doing this to you is disturbed and can be doing it for all sorts of reasons, it could be jealousy, someone who you may have once known and broken contact with, ex lovers, someone who has become fixated with you - there can be many reasons - but remember the problem is with the person doing the stalking/harassment and not YOU.
Agencies and useful websites which provide support, advice, information
SupportLine Telephone Helpline: 01708 765200, email [email address blocked] - Providing emotional support and details of counsellors, support groups and agencies throughout the UK
The National Stalking Helpline:
0808 802 0300
www.stalkinghelpline.org
Practical advice and information to anyone who is currently or previously been effected by harassment or stalking.
The Suzy Lamplugh Trust
020 7091 0014
www.suzylamplugh.org
To create a safer society and enable everyone to live safer lives. Working for the reduction, and fear of, crime against the person through campaigning for policy and legislative change, research, training, and advice
Victim Supportline:
0808 168 9111
www.victimsupport.org.uk
Helpline for anyone affected by crime
Useful websites
www.digital-stalking.com – advice regarding online bullying, harassment, cyberstalking and safety tips.
www.legislation.hmso.gov.uk/acts/acts2003 - Put Harassment in search engine for relevant acts to be displayed
www.met.police.uk - Go to A-Z at bottom of page, select V for Victim Care
www.protectionagainststalking.org
The vision of this organisation is to change society's perception of stalking and to improve the safety for all victims of stalking and harassment and for perpetrators to be held to account by the Criminal Justice system.
www.scaredofsomeone.org
Information about stalking and staying safe and includes a national consultation questionnaire.
www.scotlandagainststalking.com
Advice and information about stalking
www.stalkingvictims.com - American site containing information, support, forums for victims of stalking
www.traceymorgan.wordpress.com
Advice and information about stalking written from the victim's perspective.
www.womensaid.org.uk - Click Domestic Violence A-Z then go into Stalking section
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 September 2015):
"I am going to say this very plainly so you will understand. Stop texting me. Stop contacting me. I do not wish to hear from you. Any further messages from you will be document and will be used in court against you, if needed. Any further contact from you is harassment, unwanted and unwelcome. If you continue I will notify police. STOP CONTACTING ME IN ANY WAY."
Then block his number.
Change your number if you have to.
You may have to file for protection from abuse from him.
Go to your local police station to ask about this, in case this escalates to something more dangerous.
I found you some links to help sort out your next moves:
http://www.stalkinghelpline.org/faq/about-stalking/ which had this paragraph: "You can call the National Stalking Helpline for further advice and information on 0808 802 0300, or e-mail us at [email address blocked]
If you are ever in immediate danger call 999"
Here's another one: http://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/stalking.php
Be safe, be sure your friends and family know that he's a problem and do not delete any messages you receive from him and start a diary of when you see him near you. Take pictures to keep a record.
Good luck.
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