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writes: I have a friend who I've known now going on 11 years. We're now 25, but she has grown to be very competitive and brags all the time.I never try to compete or rub anything in her face but that's how she is. I always support her but she just seems to insult me. Plus, she's a big time follower and tries to impress people and she hangs out with people who aren't the most positive. I've tried talking to her about this, but she just gets defensive.I've tried to motivate her to do better but she simply doesn't act on it. I've just grown tired of this and the last few times I've hung out with her, I've felt negative and depressed. If I hang out with her in a group of other friends, its not a problem. So I basically decided that its best that I do what I continue to do and hang out with her much less.She tries to make me feel sorry for her so I'll feel bad for not seeing her as often, but then when I have been there for her, she'd berate me and/or insult me. I've tried to be positive with her but I give up. Is this a wrong thing? I don't understand- if I'm nice to her, why can't she be nice to me? Why do I feel so bad about keeping my distance from someone who treats me like dirt anyways?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (2 January 2010):
You know what you have to do so just do it.
Stop calling her and if you see her and she insults you then tell her that you are sick of it and don't want to hang out with someone who is nasty to you.
I understand you feel bad, but life is too short to keep negative people around you.
Good Luck!! xx
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