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writes: I was with my boyfriend for nearly two years. Just towards the end of our relationship, things started to go wrong. It didn't seem like he wanted to be with me, wouldn't let me sleep at his house, we were arguing etc and he decided to move back to his home town 70 miles away for a new job.I had a fight one evening with my housemate and ended up staying with a guy I had met the previous night. I got very drunk and we ended up sleeping together.I told my boyfriend about it as I felt so guilty about the whole thing and we broke up over it. We have recently met up again (3 months later) and all the old tingly feelings came back again, for both of us. He told me that he is really hurt by what i did and I cannot express to him how sorry I am, I have tried but he won't accept. This all happened shortly after I caught him kissing another girl and although that is no excuse, he just won't accept that I made a big mistake.I have never felt so bad about anything before. I know he still loves me, I just don't know how I could ever earn his trust again. We were so good together, we both know that.Why is is so hard for him to trust me again? Have I lost him forever and if so how can i ever prove to him that he is a really special person? All i want is for him to be happy, he's had a really hard life and even if we don't ever get back together, I want him to know that I care about him so much and never ever meant to hurt him.Im hurting so much inside, I love him with all my heart. What have I done??
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, steph, writes (9 February 2005): Firstly, although the feelings have come back did you seriously expect him to give you another go? You hurt him in the only emotional way you could. By sleeping around you made him feel that he wasn't as special to you as you made out and that you didn't find him sexually worth waiting for until he got his head back together.Put this crisis down as a bad experience and move on. If you and your ex- boyfriend do get together again he'll never trust you in the same way again. if you put it down as a learning experience the hopefully you'll never do it again and the same thing won't be done to you!
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