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writes:My penis is just a little over 5 1/2 inches and just under 6 inches long when erect, and me and my girlfriend are both virgins and we really want to have anal when she and I get married, she's really self conscious about her butt because it's not small (it's definitely not small) but it's not super big, so she loves it when I tell her that her butt is gorgeous and sexy and when I talk to her about the things we want to do together. I'm concerned that when she and I try different sexual positions, that my penis isn't long enough to reach all the way inside of her vagina and her butthole, and I really really want to make sure that it fits all the way in when she and I do things like her riding me anally, and yes, my girlfriend really wants me to give her anal often, she and I are super curious and we know we'll both love it when I do finally give her anal. Can someone please reassure me that my penis is long enough to fit in her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2011): I am the same size as you and have been with some larger women (let's say a size 12-14) and had no real problem with depth of penetration. Sure, I may have known they have been with bigger guys that went deeper, but deeper does not always bring more pleasure. And besides, you can do some positions, legs bent for example, that let you go deeper. Honestly, I have had more problem with tall, slender women for some reason. Every woman is different. I've been with small, plump girls that it seemed to go VERY deep, and some skinny girls where our pelvises just didn't "align" well and the depth of penetration was very shallow.Girth is more of an issue, especially with anal. THe wider you are, the more you will have to lube her and go easy with fingers or smaller toys and work up to your cock.But try not to focus on anal. Focus on pleasure. Specific acts come as part of normal lovemaking, not the other way around. I was an anal FIEND for many years until I got it out of my system. Any more, I do it only if my GF wants it because I get off more on HER pleasure than mine, and if she doesn't want it in the pooper, that's fine by me. Be respectful of her first and foremeost.
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (15 May 2011):
 I agree with the previous aunts... I feel you are rushing things slightly here!
You are both virgins, you have no idea how sex feels like yet. You have no idea what you will like and what you won't like.
as for this "we know we'll both love it when I do finally give her anal"...... well... Have you been watching a lot of porn?
The vast majority of women never want to do this particular act and do not like it, finding it very painful - you only have to do a search on this site to see for yourself. "riding me anally" wouldnt really be something that she would enjoy - remember porn stars are paid to do these things. Doesn't mean they actually enjoy doing them,
Please do not let your idea of 'porn sex' cloud your reality. Porn is not real. What you see in porn does not happen in every bedroom in the world. It is a fantasy, a visual aid for men. Your GF may feel she has to do these things to be normal because that is what you percieve sex to be about. It isn't and she doesnt have to do them. You seem more interested in anal than you do in exploring the more natural aspects of sex with a woman - her vagina.
I feel the reality of anal sex may be very different to what she expects.
As for your size question... there is nothing wrong with you. You are perfectly normal.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 May 2011):
 You don't need your penis to be in deep if you give her anal, it will be more unpleasant for her the deeper you go. It's the feeling you want, not the knowledge of getting in deep or not.
Relax, don't worry about it. You haven't had sex yet, and for all you know this wont be a problem at all. You'll understand more about the dynamics and workings of the body once you and her start having sex. Remember that anal sex is of the more advanced things to do, so don't jump right into it. Go through the more basic sexual things before you take that step, it is necessary that you both understand each others bodies and what gives you pleasure, before you go ahead to the more advanced things.
By the time you get there, you will have figured out what pose a problem, and also you will have figured out how to solve it.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (15 May 2011):
 Hi
For starters your penis is more than adequate, there are many guys who may read this and think I wish mine was that size. As for anal sex with your soon to be wife, its all good talking about it, and the idea may sound great, but most women actually do NOT like this when they try it. And many men find it too tight and discomfort. However as this is not the usual kind of sexual activity I would remind you that protection is a must at all times when entering the anal passage, and never put your penis back into her virgina unless your using a clean condom, or you have washed, as this can cause infections.. If you both decide you REALLY want to give this a go, I suggest plenty of lubricant, i.e KY jelly. or ann summers oils. and just make sure she is relaxed and comfortable before entering, and be very gentle as this is a very sensitive area, and can tare easily, and cause her problems.
I hope this has helped
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