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writes:hi i wonder if you guys or girls can help with this question. i have asked questions about this before. Basically, i am living with my partner of 3 years, we have a big group of friends who my partner ha been friends with for year and they are now my friends too,there is this one friend who used toflirt with me quite alot when we went out, i sort of had an inklin tha he might have ahad a soft spot for me for a while but i could never really tell if he was just messing around. Well just recently my partner proposed to me and i said yes. This friend came over for the day at the weekend and i said "so have you heard the news?, were engaged!" expecting him to give me a hug and say congratulations! but he looked me right in the eyes and said "you should have said no", at first i thought he was jokin but after havin time to reflect, i realised he sounded pretty serious about. I am of course in love with my fiance, otherwise i would not have sed yes to gettin engaged, i admit, i did used to have a soft spot for this friend aswell, i would have never done anything to jeapordise wot i have with my partner and of course, i still wouldnt. I just wanted to see what you guys or girls think of this because i seemed to me like he was angry that i said yes beause he wanted me himself!? maybe im thinking too far into this but i cant see how what he said could have been a joke, he sad it so seriously. Of course nothing will change even if he did likeme because i love mypartner and i am going to marry him either way but i just wanted to know you thought about it. Thanks everyone x
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reader, cd206 +, writes (30 April 2007):
 I think maybe he feels a bit like you've led him on by flirting with him when you were with his friend. Maybe he thought that if he stayed close to you that you might change your mind and be with him. Obviously you're in love with your fiance and you can't erase this guy from your lives but I strongly advise that you take a step back from the situation and keep your interactions with this guy to a minimum until he gets used to it.
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