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30-35,
*keez
writes:Hello everyone! Me and my bf have been going out for about 2 years and 2 months. Things have been rocky lately but were starting to get back on track. But there's one thing that still bothers me. My bf has 2 friends who are both girls. One girl flirted with my bf through text and he unfortunatly responded to her in the same manner (though I got his tail between his legs afterwards) and everytime we go out she stays away from him when I'm round but gets close to him when I go off to the other side of the room. The other girl flirts with my bf when we go out clubbing and does it in front of me. The problem is... my boyfriend doesn't tell them to stop acting in the way they do towards him. They latch onto him like superman while im standing there, but I can't say anything in front of them. He tells me he doesn't want to be rude to them, but they're being rude towards me by acting this way. He doesn't respond to them in any way like kissing, or hugging or excessive touching, but he doesn't tell them to stop, which gives them the message it's ok to carry on. I feel really disrespected.Also he tells me I have good reason to be mad at them, yet he still hangs out with them and lets it carry on in front of me. Sometimes I feel as though he enjoys my aggravation.What do I do?Thank you.
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reader, darkledemon +, writes (12 April 2009):
 yes babes. you do need to sit down and talk to him about this, he is possibly liking the attention but remember he has chosen to be in a relationship with you so he should be considerate of your feelings. try the advice before, hold his hand and cuddle into him but if they dont get the message and he isnt going to stop it is he worth it ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): Also guys like that are often charmers, mine was, tell him straight and he'll try and flirt his way out of it, don't listen to any of it, what he's doing to you is WRONG and he needs to know that. Good Luck again :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): You really need to talk to him, sit him down and tell him you are NOT happy with the way he responds to their flirtation, tell him you feel uncomfortable and he needs to tell them to back off. Hold his hand when they are around and make sure they notice, they'll get the message soon enough. Ive been with a guy like this, we dated for only about a year and he had lots of girl friends who he insisted were all *close friends* i got more and more depressed and it ended in a nasty break up, you need to sort this out right now, and if he carrys on ditch him because to be honest hun, it doesnt sound like hes worth it. Good Luck xx
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