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writes:Ok i've just met a wonderful girl, and i'm madly in love with her, i know this because it's diffrent than the feelings i've had with ex gf's, i am 17 and she is 16, shes slept over a few times now, but recently she has come on the PMT it really hurts me though the way she reacts, it's like she's changed, the first night i met her she was fine, but now she's become this wild bitchy lass, it feels like she doesn't even care about me or anything, i love her dearly, and i want to do loads of romantic things with her, and i want things to be really good, but it's like she throws it back in my face, for example, i say i love her all the time say something like 40 times a day? but she starts saying something like "right whatever i know you do" and she's really stressed out, also another time i had some romantic music on and when i went to kiss and cuddle her she pushed me away and said "oh stop already your annoying me, it does my head in" so i stop and leave it for a bit and try again and the same thing happens, plus i feel like i cant talk to her openly because she seems uninterested in what i have to say and gets stressed out and says something like "right whatever i don't care, your stressing me out stop being silly" and it get's me down, i really don't know what to do here god knows i love her, but it seems like she doesn't give a damn about me, and another thing which annoys me, and i've tried talking to her about it, but she seems to flirt with other lads quite a bit, i have no problem with it, but some lads can be dirty and say rude and filthy stuff to her, she just laughs at it and seems to flirt back, and if someone asks her out she wont tell them she has a boyfriend or anything she just says "lol i dunno" and it hurts me but she doesn't seem to see it, i dont talk to anyone me, i keep my gob shut, id never cheat on her ever, she says she isnt gonna go off with other lads, but it annoys me the things they say, also she lies when people ring her up asking her where she is like the other day her ex boyfriend said on the phone "iya babe i miss you and want you back, where are you?" and she says "awww bbe, and i'm out" and i dont think shes mentioned the fact that shes going out with me to anyone, and not many lads take that in that she has a bf, and if they ever say anything in person or start flirting in person, i'm gonna get mad and end up hitting them all and there will be a pile of cocky lads who think they're bad, it gets me so damn wound up, i hope she just calms down when her PMT goes away in a few days, please can some of you give me some advice or help?????????? i really aprreciate you reading all of this, it means alot to me, thank you so much.x.
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reader, Crazykatee +, writes (18 December 2011):
I have pmt but i dnt act that way, if i flirted or txt ex bfs like that i wuda bin single soon as i replied or flirted with someone!! That girls taking the p outa u and ur lettin er!! Dow get treated like a fool and man up!! Put ya foot down and put ur girl in her place!! Single life is better than bein lied to, cheated on and basically made a mug off, good luck in future x
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reader, Krathor18 +, writes (12 March 2010):
Krathor18 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi Guys thought i would give an update on this one, Kirsty is History, i've had a few girlfriends since then, all of them cheaters and liars, so yeah i'm single still but whatever, right now i am focusing on getting my career sorted and i just want to say thank you to all the people who took the time out to answer my questions, i hope we can continue to help one another out in the future should anymore dilemmas occur, thank you,
Charlie x
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reader, Krathor18 +, writes (23 May 2009):
Krathor18 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your help people, i'll certainly try talking to her when she's calmer, and explain more clearer that the flirting has got to stop, thanks again anyways, your advice is duelly noted (if thats the right word lol)
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (23 May 2009):
 Dear Poster
PMT. I am sure this is something that every man hates, and never knows quite how to deal with. All women are different, some of us get a little moody, some grumpy, others get a bit sensitive and generally all of us get very very emotional. Hormones. Dont you just love them. Thankfully, our men see through this, and love us anyway, even when we turn into horrid monsters. A lot of women lose all sense of reason when they have PMT - they literally get blinded by their hormones, and will often not see reason, so listen to Just_a_dreamer, and do not cross your girlfriend whilst she does have PMT, it isnt worth the grief! Normally in this situation I would say, back off a bit when she has PMT. Sometimes men getting all lovey dovey when we are feeling a bit GRRRR just makes us even more grumpy. Its not that we dont love you, its just we are soo not in the mood for anything. We know you love us, we just dont need you to tell us, right at that moment. (all men are expected to be mind readers at this time of the month, and they have to realise that whatever they do, will inevitably be wrong).
Now, your girlfriend sounds like she reacts in the grumpy way - you try your best to be loving and caring, she throws it back at you. You sound like a very lovely young man, who obviously has great feeling, and you have been VERY understanding so far to this. This is a credit to you as a boyfriend.
However, her behaviour has gone way beyond that of normal PMT. This is just an excuse for her to flirt and generally misbehave. Most girls will usually have a bit of a hissy fit, and then cry when they have PMT. What your girlfriend is doing suggests that she has completely different motivations. I do think she has issues about commitment. It is not acceptable in a relationship to be flirting with other men, and PMT is certainly not an excuse to do anything like the things she has been getting upto.
You should talk to her, calmly, and ask her why she flirts with other boys like that. Do you really want to be with someone who obviously can only think about themselves? You seem like a really nice guy, who any girl should be proud to go out with, and tell the world about. You deserve someone better who gives you the same level of respect that you give to them.
I really hope things work out for you
Tiger x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): I don't know what this girl may be like when she's not having PMT but anyone that acts that way to ANYONE has issues. It sounds like your trying really hard to be sweet and understanding to her and she just doesn't appreciate it. Now, basically all girls have periods but that doesn't mean they need to act that way. I don't. I might be more sensitive but I don't do all that mean stuff, I'm probably to tired XD. I would try and talk to her about it when she's off of it. Bringing it up while it's happening may just make her really mad... Do you really want a girl who doesn't tell people about you? If she was sincere she would. Just saying, but what do I know I don't want to point you in the wrong direction. -good luck
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