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writes:Hey everyone, so here is an update on my situation. The girl that Ive been with for almost 5 years wants to see what else is out there. It has been an amazing relationship. We are our first everything and it means a lot to me, and I used to think to her. I saw her last night for the first time in a while and we talked. She brought up the situation and said that she just didnt know. She felt as though her life was a bubble with relationships and work. She just needs space to figure this out, but also wants to make sure that we are meant to be. She said she would not pass up the chance if another person was presented to her and she was ready. But she is definitely not seeing anyone now. she wants to see the single life. She is not the intimate person and she has her values. We waited until deeply in love after a year and half in order for our first time to be special. She now says that lately she has felt the need for it, yet doesnt communicate to me. I just dont want her throwing it away. We had crazy butterflies and a special connection when we saw each other. I asked her if it was true love and she said yes. Yet she doesnt want to regret anything in the future since she is still so young. I am 23 and she is 21. It seriously hurts to let her go because I know how amazing it was and so does she. She started crying and grabbed my hands on the coffee table although we are not together. She told me she wants to get back together so bad but doesnt want to fall into the routine again. 5 years is a long time and I think we both have to work to make it special. She doesnt want this idea of hers that maybe something else is there for her to come back in the future, and neither do I. I want to give her time. She wants to stay in contact and go out from time to time, but I know exactly what will happen. If she does find someone I will be crushed. I feel as though time apart is what we need yet I cant seem to tell her, i dont want it myself. Most importantly im afraid that if I dont contact her, she will lose feelings and so will I. Time is very powerful. I want to stay in contact but dont want her to think im wrapped around her finger. Its hard to throw away 5 years of first true love when there is no serious reasoning behind it, yet only fear. She thought it was a routine. I told her that we should lighten it up a bit, and have a great time experiencing new things together. She sees some other couples who flirt in public and show their affection, yet I know we have it, I just didnt think that was the sort of thing she wanted. I love her more than anything and need some advice. I hate waiting, but just dont know how to ago about doing it. What do you think, do we still have a chance at this? It was fireworks last night, and she wanted to show affection so bad. We stared at each other for a while, and right then smiled. Im so close with her family too. They always tell me im so good with their daughter, they trusted me from day one, something very hard with her rents. I just dont want her finding someone else thats why im confused. I cant believe she wants to ruin something special to take a chance. She is wanting her dream guy yet, doesnt know hes right in front of her. Not to sound bad, but everyone sees it except for her. I would do anything and out love is strong. THANKS!!!
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reader, Kevin33 +, writes (16 February 2009):
Kevin33 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey everyone, she actually found someone!!! She is seeing him. I told her I didnt want to talk to her. I dont know anymore. Time will tell, but I dont know if I will want her back!
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reader, 2dancinfeetxx  +, writes (16 February 2009):
5 years.. you guys sound like soulmates =) i think she will meet another guy, but realize hes nothing like you and then realized she made a huge mistake. i think itll all work it out in the end, theres a reason you guys made it THIS far
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