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male
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41-50,
*amloyal
writes:Intimacy issues.....My girlfriend has been having issues about being intimate with me. She has not been her self recently and she has let it get to a point where she does not feel the intimacy with me anymore.She loves me and wants to be with me and she has let it get to this point and has now told me and she wants to make it work and does not want to loose what she has.We have had issues in the past which has caused in security in the relationship. Which has lead to this.She does not kiss me like she use to or we dont have a sexual relationship in bed too. She is pregnant but has had issues that i may leave.I have given her my honesty and full strength in the relationship and never given up and i have been strong all the way through. That i want to know how i can get her to bring her back in the intimate sides of things with me again.As everything else is going well but its not going to well if the intimacy is not there....she wants to bring it back but she does not know how and i need some help in knowing what can be done to make her bring it back......We both love each other and want things to work and we want to get this sorted before our new born baby arrives (8 weeks) i have a challenge here and i need some advice on what i can do or what i can tell her to do to bring our relationship back to normal again.Thanks.... Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 I'm thinking that the pregnancy has something to do with what's going on here. When women are pregnant, their bodies are giving off tons of hormones. This can make them act quite crazy or at a minimum, way out of their norm. (this is not meant to offend women. I currently have 5 pregnant women in my office and it gets wild sometimes)
My advice would be to focus on your child for now. There is a lot to do to get ready for the arrival that isn't very far away. After your baby is born, then see if you can start to bring some intimacy back to the relationship. Keep in mind, it won't be immediate. She needs time to recover from the birth as well as get past the first few weeks of no sleep due to the new child.
Other things you can do is show her you care about her. Do little things for her. Maybe give her a foot massage, as they are likely swollen. Take care to not make her have to work hard around the house. Little things you do can remind her why she loves you and wants to be intimate with you. I think if you do those things, you can get the intimacy back. Good luck!
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