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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little less than a year. We are both 18 and go the same highschool. I play lacrosse and she plays girls lacrosse. We never get to see each others games because we both have sports at he same time. Something that she has done is really eating at me. I am not good and never ever play, but it was senior night so its the one time all year I play. She came to my game and watches me play. The thing is she left at half time! It was like 8 when she left and she said she had to shower and stuff before bed ect. So I was bummed she only got to see me play half the game. Then my games over and I get home and text her and were talking and I ask her what she's up to, and she says facebook...... I was so pissed, she blew off the one time to see me play lacrosse, probably the last time ill ever play on my life. She obviously had plenty of time if she could get on facebook (she spends a ton of time on facebook). So that agrivated me. Then it gets worse, the senior night was half pushed to a later day. Just the part where u walk acrosse the field with your parents wad on the later day. Its a big deal though. I went to her game because mtn was later, and I left like 5 min before it ended cause I had to go to my game. She knows id liked her to come as I mentioned it in school that day. She said she had alot of homework to do and might not be able to go. So I said just come for the part where I walk across the field with my parents, cause I wont play so its pointless for u to stay. So my game started at 7 and we walked across at 7, and she got home from hers at 6. She didn't show up. I get home and look on facebook to see if she was on or not. And wouldent u know it, at 7:01 she was on and commented on something. I mean wow, is that just rude or is it me. It would have taken her 20 min to drive to the school and watch me walk. I feel like she doesn't even care, I almost just want to not go to any more of her games, and specialy not her senior night. Am I wrong?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (12 May 2011):
 Your not wrong here at all. It's sad that people waste their lives on a social site that actually has no socializing what so ever. Just to let you know I hate facebook and have never made one. Most of my friends deleted theirs because it is such a waste of time.
It sounds to me that either she doesn't understand the importance of these things to you or she is too selfish to care. It's hard for me to say what you should do though because on one hand I would be pissed and tell her that it hurt you and she should choose between facebook and you.
On the other hand I doubt you want to lose her over this so you should probably try to sit her down and explain how all of this makes you feel. If she still doesn't care then I don't think she is ready for a relationship.
Again though, you are not wrong for wanting her to be there and you even are understanding a shower excuse so i think that you are perfectly justified to be angry in her choosing facebook over you.
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