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writes:Hi guys. I have been seeing my girlfriend for over 1 1/2 years, we get on OK but she is very secretive about things. Firstly she keeps her phone on silent whenever she is at home (she says she just forgets after keeping it on silent from work), she never has any text messages in her 'sent' items, only a handful in her inbox, when casually looking at her phone she forbids me to look at any text messages (she says they are private), she doesnt like me using her laptop as she watches me closely on it and deletes her browsing history on the internet regular. She has 2 x email address, one for usual stuff and one for everything else.She did email and text her ex boyfriends a while ago but I think she has stopped.Do I have anything to be worried about? I seem to think this is all a bit fishy! Thanks in advance for your help!
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reader, derick  +, writes (2 November 2014):
I think deep down you know the answer already. be sure not to get stuck in denial.
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reader, Iwuoha  +, writes (26 October 2012):
 Already your mind his troubled so first you have to work on your mind.Let be free to do what ever she wants because only when she is free you can actually get her.and please never be too possessive on her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the responses on this guys!
I came home from work sooner than she suspected the other night and she was on her laptop, she closed it up and left it. When I came home, she obviously didnt have chance to delete her browsing history, so it was still there from the last 'session'. I had a quick look at the history and she has been looking at photos on the internet of her ex boyfriends and also looking at a lot of guys profiles on a social networking site.
Is this normal? Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010): These are the exact same behaviors that my boyfriend expressed when he was cheating on me! While it was happening, I was suspicious, but just blew it off thinking "Nah, he's too good of a man, he'd never do that to me!" I was wrong. I found out months later that he was in fact cheating on me the whole time.
If you can ever get a hold of her computer alone, snoop though it. I bet there is a lot of incriminating evidence if she so desperately doesn't want you to look in it. That was the case with my boyfriend. I found chat logs using cool yahoo messenger decoder and found out he was meeting a girl from craigslist and sleeping with her.
And believe me, we were only apart like 1 day out of every week. I thought there was no way he had the time to cheat on me, but he sure did!
Be cautious and protect your heart. It hurts like hell and you feel like a real idiot when you know you saw the signs but you blindly ignored them.
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reader, ldg99 +, writes (29 May 2010):
 She has her own life! Seriously, my boyfriend doesn't hang out with me all of the time,but he still loves me.
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reader, Tasmanian devil +, writes (29 May 2010):
 there may be a chance she is hiding something, but she could just be a private person. is this usual behaviour for her?? But surely you've been dating long enough to be able to just ask her about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010): If there's nothing to hide then she wouldn't be so secretive would she? Come on you can see what's going on, if you read your own message as someone elses post what would it look like to you?
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