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writes:Tonight my girlfriend 32, came over to tell me I was not going with het and her 3 kids to san diego. A 4 hour notice. She is ptsd. Also pregnant with our child. I am 59. When I asked her why she changed her mind she said I was trying to smother her. Part of her depriving me of attention. Then she hit me. And told me to call the authorities, she did not care. I have been seeing her psychologist and he tells me to not let her in my head. Now she is traveling without me and tonight hits me.I do love her very much and have been trying for 7 weeks since I moved out of her house to an apartment nrarby she picked for me.So do I continue or pull away? Love making went from 2 times daily to nothing. HELP.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (3 July 2009):
 It sounds like she has a lot of issues and she is taking them out on you. I really feel bad for the children who are caught up in this situation. It is not right for her to be abusive, whether verbally, physically or mentally.
I think it would be a good idea to find your own place.
In addition, I worry about the red flags she put up from the start, like pressuring you into having a child right away. Read the list below; it applies to both men and women.
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/manipulator/redflaglist.shtml
Good luck with everything. I hope that you find peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): I am sorry you are going through this.
I would continue to back off...perhaps she will come to her senses.
You mentioned that she is PSTD, so am I...I can't imagine being pregnant and going through those emotions as well.
Having said that...I don't believe that being pregnant, or suffering from an emotional disorder gives one an excuse to treat people badly!
You don't deserve it and shouldn't have to put up with it!
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (3 July 2009):
Do not ever let anyone put their hands on you. Period. Women can be abusive and controlling too, and there is never any reason to hit another person, especially someone that you love.
How long have you been going out?
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