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writes:Hey everyone!This is kind of a follow up question to my previous question. If you need more information please read through that question. So just one week ago while visiting my long distance girlfriend she broke up with me. Considering I was still gonna be there for a couple of days "of course" (how she put it) she was gonna spend them together with me. I didn't really understand why she would (considering after some small fight she just dumped me) do that but considering I would be alone and miserable in a foreign country I agreed. Now the weirdness followed though; so one day after the break up we met up for lunch and went for a coffee after. We basically walked around and talked and laughed about everything and nothing. Our futures separately and so on. During these talks she really let on that she doesn't know what she is gonna do without me because she used to be centered around me. Talking to me when I got at work; poking me during the day and calling me when I would get home after work. We basically spend every free moment talking to each other. Telling me she didn't want to lose that. So the day after this; she told me she had her period and it hurt too much to come out. She kept telling me she felt so bad that I would be bored. Until at some point I told her, well I could check to see if there is an earlier flight back home? And she got insanely mad at me.. I don't really understand why, she broke up with me and why would it matter if I left sooner? After some time she was okay again and she told me we would meet up the day after. The day after was really weird.. Still really fun and all but I noticed she was wearing make up and really did her best on her appearance. She was also more clingy and huggy. Like saying she was cold while grabbing my arm and cuddling to my body, holding my hand etc. So we just talked a lot and at some point it was about our break up; I told her that I did agree to the break up but still found it a shame.. I would've gladly worked out our problems (minor fights and the distance) I told her I actually found a job near and she got really thoughtful for a bit then saying it's really admirable that I would drop everything to be with her. Telling me she probably would not do that. I told her well.. I didn't realize how much she meant to me until after the break and since I never was sure about my future it hit me. My life was happiest with her and I could actually do anything if I could just come home to her. She got really thoughtful and didn't answer. After that she told me she had to work the morning after so she would have to leave early. I walked her to the metro and we hugged and kissed.. When I made to let go she grabbed me closer and hugged me more. Telling me to let her know when I got home. (kind of weird) since she is still really worried and concerned about me. She told me she felt really bad I had to leave on my own.. I also gave her a small present (bought pre-break up). So when I got home she asked me why I didn't write her sth personal in it.. Uhm Hellooo break up?Then the following morning I logged my Facebook out of boredom at the airport and noticed she was fooling around on Facebook and not working.. So she lied to me. I'm really wondering ATM what I am to her.. And don't know what I should be doing.. This is all so weird to me, I never had a break up like this. Can u please share your wisdom and ideas because I'm lost. I do love her but I am confused about all of this :( thanks in advance!
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reader, Cupiddd86 +, writes (22 March 2011):
Cupiddd86 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo I'm from te Netherlands and she is from Greece we met more then a year ago while online gaming. We grew closer and closer until I asked her if she wanted to date. All was fine when I met her in February and we were both even more in love and happy. Until a misunderstanding and eventual break up.
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (22 March 2011):
 You are in the Netherlands. Where does she live??
How long have you been talking? where did you meet?
give us some insight and your answers will be delivered shortly :)
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