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writes:Hi, I am a student at an American college, coming from Britain. I am really new to the romantic scene, and having a few problems. There is one girl I really like, but I don't know how to ask her out, and I'm not even sure if she likes me at all, though we are friends. I don't know whether to ask unless I feel good about her chances of saying yes. So to sum up this side of the question: I really like this girl, but don't know how to proceed, whether to, or whether she'll want to proceed.On the other side: there is a girl, a friend, who I think might like me. She tends to seek me out before and after class, and she asks me out to coffee quite a bit. However, I don't like her that way, and don't, as far as I know, act that way. This seems to be a pattern with me - the girls I like don't show interest, but girls I don't like do. Could this be to do with the way I act towards girls I like and girls I don't? Any ideas would be so helpful - I'm at a loss. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): Tbh if i like someone i dont show interest in them because then i know they will chase me. And it sounds like this is what the girl you like is doing. Keep it casual and just ask her if she fancies going out sometime? This way its nothing to serious and if she says no then hopefully you can go back to being friends. As for this other girl.. dont string her along. She obviously likes you, so to spare feelings let her know how you feel sooner rather than later! But be gentle! :D
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