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writes:ok so there is a girl I have been talking to for about 2 years now, we have gotten very close to dating several times, but every time we get close, she claims that she "only likes the attention she gets from me." At first, I tried complimenting her alot, and making alot of jokes supporting her, and i tried cutting back on these as well. She has even told me that it is so hard to not fall for me. so my question is this, how do I make her like me for me, and not just like the attention she gets from me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 July 2008):
She's basically telling you that she's using you. She's not interested but is quite happy to take the self esteem boost.
I don't think there is a way of winning this girl.
You are in exactly the same position as all the girls who want the guy they are sleeping with to fall in love with them. It's not going to happen.
I'm sorry sweetie but you need to withdraw your affections and move on.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (29 July 2008):
 Back off.
This girl is hooked on your attention and probably loves the fact that she doesn't even need to commit to you - you shower her with all the affection and attention any boyfriend would give her and she still can be single and living it up.
I've been in this girls position. She may not even realize that she's loving the no-strings-attached attention from you. She really won't realize that she likes you until you back off and cool down.
Tell her something like, "You know how I feel and I've decided that since you don't want to be with me, I'm just going to work on getting over you." and then, give her space and give yourself time to get started on the process of letting her go. If she comes back to you, well, you get a happy ending. If she doesn't, then you know how much you meant to her in the first place and she's clearly not the gal you want to be with.
Good luck, sweetness!
xx India
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reader, Karra +, writes (29 July 2008):
Stop giving her attention, if thats what she like give attention to someone else. This will make her feel jealous. And she should try to get u back. If that doesn't work then forget about her cus a girl that only wants attention from u isn't anything u want find a girl that will love the attention u give her and want to be with u. THere are plenty of girls out there don't be afraid to take chances and not just go after the same one that keeps turning u down.
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