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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi,I started dating girl a six months ago. We are both in our late twenties. She had not long broken up from a serious relationship. The first 5 times or so we went out on dates was fantastic. But since then and for a couple of months she has been blowing hot and cold. At first I thought she had just lost interest in me and that was that, but in my experience no one uses future tence or suggestions such as 'I'll tell you over dinner one night', etc. Also the past few months have all been by text, no conversation on the phone, nor have we met. I am thinking of letting it go, but not sure. Is this the behaviour of someone not over their ex and struggling?? Or should I be patient or move on? What could I say to her without putting pressure on her?Thanks in advance for any help.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (5 January 2013):
 Hello
Sorry to say but I think you must let it go. It sound like she's not interested but either can't say it for fear of hurting you, or she's stringing you along for a bit of attention.
If she's not over her ex, that's a red flag rather than a reason to excuse her evasive behaviour. Let her sort out her issues with getting over her ex in her time, not yours. I know that might sound tough.
Text messaging is not a way to maintain a relationship. Another red flag. And no direct contact for 2 months ... You have been remarkably patient.
Really, you sound like a nice, considerate man. Best to move on and find someone who appreciates you. There will be plenty of women who will.
I think you should wish her the best for her future and move on. Good luck.
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