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writes:my boyfriend of 4 months told me he got genital warts and he thinks i gave it to him hes the only guy ive had unpertected sex with and im confused on how i could have gave it to him.... do i have hpv already? but i dont have any warts at all i havent had any signs of them either. i know i could have the virus with out any warts or signs but idk how i could have gotten it. i cant tell anyone about this itll rouine his and mines reputations and i dont need my mom to flip out over this.... should i go by myself to the clinic and get tested? im scared and i have no idea what to do....any advice please?
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 the best thing u can do for a peace of mind is go get tested.
sometimes warts dont show up when u have them and sometimes they do.
going to the clinic and getting tested will get this problem sorted out alot quicker and u can see if he's telling the truth.
take a friend with u to the clinic if u feel nervous or chance it alone.
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): One thing that I want to add to Tisha's answer is that not all types of HPV can cause cervical cancer. There are many types. Some can cause cervical cancer while others can cause warts and there are probably other results for some types that I am not aware of. The vaccine is to protect against the ones that can cause cervical cancer. Based on this, I would assume that it might still be effective even if you have one of the other types, but you would have to ask a doctor about that.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 July 2009):
 First of all, calm down, you'll be able to think and plan when your head is clear. You'll be fine.
Okay, let's separate the two issues. One is who gave what to whom. Leave that for the time being.
The real issue, and the one that needs attention now, is that you have been exposed to HPV (human papilloma virus), the virus that has been associated with cervical cancer. So get yourself to your gyn or a clinic ASAP! Yes, you do need to be tested. Ask about the vaccine against HPV while you are there. It might be too late, but then again, you might not have HPV. It's better to find out for sure, than to sit and fret about it. Okay? I know it's scary, but pull yourself together, and make those phone calls. You'll feel a lot better when you start to get control over the situation.
Next, who gave what to whom. That can be part of the discussion with the doctor; ask about how it is transmitted and how to avoid contracting it or passing it on. It is possible to transmit the virus through skin to skin contact, even if he is wearing a condom. Condoms lessn the risk, but they don't eliminate it. I'll give you some links so you can educate yourself. Don't freak out about these; it's better to know what you may have than to imagine it. The real is often much less scary than the imagined.
And could you do me a huge favor? Take a look at some of the posts here, the ones where the girl asks if she's on the pill, why would she need to use condoms too? Maybe your scare can help prevent another girl from going through the same worry and testing? Some good might come out of this situation if you prevent one other person from getting HPV.
http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/hpv-genital-warts/genital-warts
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/stds-hiv-safer-sex/genital-warts-4268.htm
So stop panicking, and start planning. You'll be better off being see right away. Remember, genital warts are an infection, not a moral judgement on you. Think of this as a medical issue, which is your private domain. No one else needs to know you've been exposed, other than future sexual partners, okay?
Good luck, and let us know how you make out with this.
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