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writes:I am a 26 year old gay male and and have had a straight male lodger for the past 2 months. I have developed feelings for him and told him this recently when i was drunk. He told me he was straight but flattered but has stayed here not so often now. When he does stay he is over friendly and always makes references to his penis or sex. He is in a bad relationship and always argues with his girlfriend who is also my work friend so im compleatley stuck in the middle of there problems. I know i shouldn t like him like i do but i miss him when he is not around. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): You can't get in a way of your feelings. Falling in love with someone is completely natural and there is nothing to be ashamed of.
But, I admit, this is a tricky situation. Unfortunately, with him being straight, there is nothing you can do. I think that you should try to stay away from that guy a while, try to meet other men and forget about him. It's gonna be difficult, but you have to at least try.
Good luck, man! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): I think that possibly his references to his penis or sex are his way of feeling manly or straight and not to be confused with anything else.
I really feel that this might not be the relationship you are seeking.
Do try and have some space from him and perhaps go out a bit more often and think about your confidence, then pray regulalarly for guidance and for the right guy to show up. Hey if it turns out he is Gay then at least you will not of stepped on any toes by having the space and reflection to be sensible. Obviously there is nothing worse than hurt feelings or a pursuing someone who is not right or interested.
Perhaps in future you could consider a female lodger just for now while you think about the relationship you are craving and how to be confident about bringing it into your life when you are ready. Good luck!!
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