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writes:i'm writin this as i would like to know if this has ever happened to anyone else?i was in a relationship for 4 n half yrs we have 2 kids.i knew he gambled a little but i was in for a shock last yr i found out he had remorgaged his house and blew the whole lot gambling he got out of contol i turned a blind eye as it wasnt my money.but then the gambling online affected me as he sat on the lap top from he came home from work til early hrs of the mornin i was ignored at all times as he was too busy eveytime i brought it up he promised he wud cut down he never did. he was abused as a child i knew this from day one so it was neve a problem,until 3yrs ago sex became almost non existant,he was always had an excuse then all affection was gone he didnt want to kiss cuddle nothing.he spent day and nite online 'gambling'.i started to have douts and broke into his email account one day he was at work he has several accounts on live chat forums got into them all and his favourites wer trannies i was so disgusted went thru his contacts it also had tranny's email addresses in his account.. i was so shocked hurt n felt totally betrayed i confronted him he pomised 2 stop 2mths later the sex stopped again he swore he wasnt at it again so i believed him but i couldnt get it out of my head so a further 5 mths i went lookin thru his lap top again and yes he was at it again.. i told him to pack his bags he left and never looked back i begged him to come back afte a month he wouldn't hear of it and now i dont know what he told his family but none of them speak to im feel like im bein punished for his seedy secrets.. i cant tell anyone as he is very well liked and no one wud believ what he was doing? i feel so alone
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reader, SexDrive1ohhh1  +, writes (14 May 2009):
 Hun, im so sorry to hear you're going through all of this... The difficult thing is that you 2 have kids together which only complicates a matter! You have to ask yourself the question: Is it worth it? You dont want your kids to pick up on his bad habits(especially if he's not willing to change them) - your first concern should be them above yourself. Then, is it fair that you have to feel alone all the time, and be stuck with a man that doesn't respect you, and who doesn't deserve you?? I really think you need to do some soul-searching. If not for your sake, then for your childrens'.
Goodluck!
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