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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey,I've had very strong genuine feelings for my teacher for almost 2 years now. I have never told him or given any indication that I do have feelings for him. I've acted like a normal student around him, merely showing him respect and friendliness. He seems to be fond of me and has shown me a lot of support and kindness over my time at the school.I will have little contact with him now I've left, although my friends still attend the school, I may go in to see them. Yet apart from seeing him in school very occasionally I have no other contact with him. Obviously, I will miss him, and I am going to find the next 6-7 weeks of holidays very difficult. Since leaving school I feel a little strange, and feel as if I've been left hanging; like something isn't finished yet...I have been considering over the past few weeks, that I may tell him how I feel about him, simply so i can gain some closure and get a clear head ready for College in September. DO you think that it is a fair enough thing to do? Or will it just make him feel uncomfortable?Like I said, I'm going to hardly see him, and when I start in September, it will be on very rare occasions. I will emphasize to him that it is simply for complete closure. Since I feel like there is no other way to let the feelings go... I've tried everything, and I feel that getting definite confirmation that it can't happen will enable me to let go probably. Although I know the probabilities of a relationship between us are very low, there is still the possibility and mixed signals from him in my head, fueling the feelings. Do you think it will help me get closure? I don't want him to think little of me for telling him, like I am pathetic or selfish. Should I just wait and see if the distance helps the feelings fade? Or just i try and get complete closure and get rid of any possibilities of a relationship? I really really like him, like no one before, so these feelings are not going to go away very easily Your help will be much appreciatedI'm leaving my school, and I don't want the feelings for this guy to follow me
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reader, loveintheair +, writes (15 June 2010):
no need for closure, i think its something that you will get over it very fast. dont do sthing u will regret later on. u will get both of urself in a very awkward situation.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 June 2010):
No way look for closure. You could get him sacked an taint your record, which would cause you trouble getting a job. Sorry, but you have to let him go.
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