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male
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36-40,
*rnmister
writes:Hello i have a question and hopefully you guys can help me out and point me in the right direction. I have been with my girlfriend for a year now, and my head is just going nuts, Im very jealous and always thinking about what shes doing etc, I dont like her talking to other dudes or hanging out with them heres the reasons, she still talks to her ex, and another dude shes had sex with, when i was crabbing up in alaska I called her up and she was at a bar with her ex when i told her please dont hang out with him while im gone, and we agreed that she would only take him to church theres a lie, they didnt hang out untill i was in alaska, then when i got back she left her myspace up and I saw that she messaged a guy she screwed right before me asking him to go get some drinks and that I was in alaska, another thing is she told me to pick her up at a bar with her friends and I walked in seeing her dirty danceing with some other dude, that broke my heart, then another time I saw a dudes number in her phone that she screwed right before she met me and I asked did he call? and she said yes and that she didnt answer it, i got the number off her phone and called him and he said he talked to her last week so she lied. I just dont get this, im a good sweet careing man i dont know why she doesnt respect my feelings. i told her that I want a woman that respects my feelings, after all this i lost respect for her an im trying to work things out with her because i love her but its hard. what would you guys do? after all this i kinda lost trust with her and i explode when i get jealous because its a respect thing. looking forward to everyones info. thanks for reading i just dont know what to do its a horrible feeling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): Look you know what she's doing and your jealousy is natural based on her actions.
If this girl wants to act single then you should make her single. Walk away. There are certain boundaries everyone expects in a relationship, even open relationships have certain boundaries she doesn't respect any of them.
She has a boyfriend but she's also seeing and romancing other guys. If that's not what you want then you have to walk away. She's not gonna change for you or anyone else, she's a party girl that lives for the moment and if it seems like fun at the time she'll do it. With girls like her anything goes.
Your just not compatible with this girl, you want a relationship with a girl who knows how to keep other guys at a distance. This girl is making you feel like crap, that's not what you do to people you love, you're supposed to venerate them, raise them up and make them feel great. Really, what's the point in being with someone that makes you miserable, that's not what love is.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (8 August 2010):
 This sounds like two people who shouldn't be together. She sounds like a very flirty lady who is always on the edge of what is proper, and you sound like an overly jealous dude who is way too concerned about her past love life.
When this relationship ends, I suggest that you think about getting therapy for your extreme jealousy.
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