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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years now, and it is pretty serious.Our sex life was AMAZING until 2 months ago where she decided she was "never interested in sex" and has decided that she never wants to have sex with me again? I try to respect her choice but i find it hard to not feel a little un-appreciated and like she has lost her love for me? Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTurns out she cheated on me a couple of weeks ago, i have been diagnosed with depression and am now on anti depressants. thanks for all your help guys. in my blind stupidity im staying with her. i realise this is a bad choice, but i cant be convinced out of it. my whole world has been completely turned upside down. love hurts aye
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (9 April 2011):
 When she says it makes her uncomfortable afterwards, is it a physical discomfprt or a mental one?If physical, she needs to see her GP/gynaecologist to investigate why.If mental, she ought to seek counselling to discover why she has taken against being intimate with the man she loves.She must have SOME interest if she remarked, even drunkenly, that "she's still got it".
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reader, person12345  +, writes (9 April 2011):
 With your recent follow up I have to wonder if she's very religious? It seems odd to me to feel guilty about sex otherwise. The only two things I can think of that would make a person feel guilt from sex are religion, or a past history of sexual abuse/assault (which she may not have told you about). This is obviously a huge deal for her and you both need to get to discuss it and figure out a way to help her around this (which will be difficult) otherwise you'll have major problems later on in the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): You never said why she doesn't want to have sex anymore. Let us know why that is, she may have a good reason. If you don't know then you have to ask her.
There are a lot of things that can make a girl never want to have sex again and most of them are bad. Find out why that is and see if you can help her with it.
If she's saying this because you had an argument or she's doing this out of spite then you have a big issue to deal with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know she was recently approached by another guy, and she described it ( whilst drunk) as " she's still got it", this hurt me a little bit as surely she would just be happy with me ?
She says she isnt bored, and that i need to leave her alone about having sex because it makes her uncomfortable afterwards.
it seems as though shes making silly excuses, which i try to respect but i find it hard to ?
I have thought about breaking it off but i fear for life without her because i do really love her and am hating what we are going through.
She has also mentioned to me that she wouldnt break up with me through guilt before even if she wanted to.
Also she has said that she doesnt "plan" to stay with me forever because she doesnt like to plan things ? personally i think this is a tad pathetic.. but maybe i am the one being so? thanks
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (9 April 2011):
Either talk it through or take it as a warning, a preview of how things are going to be between you in the future.If she has forbidden sex this early in your relationship, you have NO relationship - it is doomed.
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reader, Abella +, writes (9 April 2011):
 if she is around your age or younger she may be having second thoughts about having sexual relations at such a young age.Did any consequence of sexual relations occur that may have upset or traumatised her? Perhaps it is something she has not yet revealed to you. Sit down and talk to her about her feelings and withoutpressuring her, do attempt to discern if anything triggered off this distain. Has she faced a recent death in the family? Did she receive unwelcome attention from another guy?It could just be signaling the start of the end. She may have grown bored. Women can be fickle. And the relationship might be winding down, but she wants to keep you as a friend.Or lastly, she may already be transfering her affections to another (but not actually cheating in person). And not flirting, by phone, nor online), and therefore feel able think about the other guy, and thus feel of you as a friend now, but no 'who' that other person isYes talk talk talkRegards,Abella
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reader, person12345 +, writes (9 April 2011):
Usually a woman's sex drive is directly linked to how frequently and easily she orgasms. Was she having an easy time orgasming pretty much every time you had sex? If no, then there's your problem. If yes, then you're going to have to talk to her about why. Maybe she's having a hard time with school, maybe other things, it's impossible to say. You have to ask her.
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