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writes:Hey,Well I have a weird problem. Basically the last 7 months me and my GF have not had sex. We had a 4 month break in that 7 month, neither of us had sex (her because of lack of drive, me because I love her, but thats a different story)Anyway we are back together, and have been for a month or so. Bottom line is her sex change hasnt changed at all. Whenever I bring it up it always causes a big argument. I am almost certrain that it is due to the pill she is taking (contreciptive). The main reason she takes it is to control her period (1ce every 3 months instead of every month)She was on a different brand for the first 1 and a bit of our relationshiop, and sex was fine. However, this pill would cause her migrains every week, so she changed to the one she is currently on. This basically slowed down our sex, until it basically stopped 7 months ago, and she has said she doesnt want sex at all. I am almost certain it is due to the pill, as what I have read on the net shows that the pill can effect sex drive. She is also anemic, however has been getting iron treatmeant, so I do not think that is effecting her.My question is how do I bring it up for her to go to a doctor and either get off the pill or try another one? Last time i brought it up she refused to , mainly because she doesnt want migrains anymore. However, the no sex is killing us, and it hurts that she doesnt want to change. She has said in the past she will go to doctor etc... but nothing has happened. So please guys can you tell me how I should approach her about this, for her to get off the pill / try another one. Before you call me selfish blah blah blah for wanting sex, everything else in our life is perfect, romantically and everything. Its just this attitude of no sex which is killing me (and her i guess).. =[ I really love her and have no intention of being with someone else, but I need sex .Thanks guys in aadvance..
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (22 December 2009):
 Leave her your not compatible with her she doesnt need sex and you do whats the point of having a gf you might aswell get a cardboard cut out of her
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): Thanks for the advice Satindesire. Solid advice.
As for anon, its not that simple. i have tried everything, and i tell you, she doesnt want sex. During our 4 month break she didnt even sleep with anyone. She doesnt masturbate, nothing.
I have tried sweet, tried everything.. Remember this has been a problem for i guess 7 months... Everything else in our life is fine, but this is the problem thtas stopping us from getting further I guess..
I will wait till when she has break from work (after christmas / new year ) and talk to her about this....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): This sounds really tough for you... My bf is very similar he wants sex a lot more than I do, but we haven't stopped having sex. I feel like he wants it too much and doesn't respect that I don't want it all the time. Have you tried telling her in a private calm conversation that you love her very much and feel that as a couple who will be together you enjoy making love to her? Just be as sweet as you can and maybe she will listen.
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