A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My "girlfriend" has been acting different for a while. She was supposed to come home with me over spring break, and she didn't. She said it was because of gas at first, but I said I would pay for some. Then she said it was a hard for week, which I understood. But I would try texting her and it seemed like she didn't want to talk. The first thing we talk about is what we are going to do over the summer, because we live 3 hrs away. Yesterday I asked her about all these things, and she said she tried a long distance relationship in the past and it didn't work. I told her i can come and visit on the weekends because she is gerttig a job overthe summer. She then replies with she thinks that isnt good enough dor her. She said she hasn't felt the spark we had when we first started dating for the past month. We are supposed to talk about what's goin to happen to us today. I'm not ready to end this. I truly love her and I'm willing to do what ever t takes to get her back and at least try it. I need help, any advice?
View related questions:
long distance, spark, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Mona Hunter +, writes (28 March 2011):
I don't know if this'll help you but just hear me out. Im also in a LDR, and was before. As much as I love my ex I had to let him go because I didnt wanna force him to love me. Its very selfish and I knew he wouldn't be happy with me which would lead him to cheat around. And so I moved on, and I met a man who loves me as much as I love him. You should go meet someone new. I know it wont be easy, but its worth it. Trust me. :)
A
female
reader, d'writer  +, writes (28 March 2011):
 I admire you for being truly in love and taking care of your relationship (not all men are like the way you are).There is this saying that when a person really wants to do something, he/she can always find way. But if a person doesn't really feel like doing a thing he/she has all the excuses in the world.You are making ways because you are interested to be with your gf. Your gf is making excuses because she doesn't feel like seeing you to the point that she's now telling you a LDR doesn't work. She's not strong nor have the faith enough in her relationship with you and that is not your fault. If I were you, prepare yourself to accept the fact and have a quiet talk with her. Let her go if that's what she wants, I guess you have bee doing your best. I believe you do love her, but forcing her to stay in a relationship that she doesn't believe it's gonna work out won't help you in the process. If you need to let her go for her to realize what she's missing if she loses you then do it. If she really loves you and she realized that she can't live without you in her life for sure she will knock at your door one day and beg you to come back (that's what we are women and maybe men too). Do your own thing and be proud that you have shown that you are real man enough in showing your love and it's not your loss.
...............................
A
female
reader, ghoku +, writes (28 March 2011):
i know it hurts but you need to accept her decision. give her some time to think about everything. dont contact her for now.
i just had this kind of experience. my girlfriend broke up with me last month. i asked her ones if she wants to get back together but she doesn't want to. i didn't beg.i just move on. that's life. i still love her though.
...............................
|
