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female
age
41-50,
*okiogirl
writes:I have been in a FWB relationship for four months. It is a long distance thing and from the beginning was clear that it will never be a real relationship.He started talked to me every day, chasing me for months and caring about me. He was very sweet and i really liked him. We went out and it happened. It was not an arrangement, just happened. We were just crazy for each other. I know he likes me and he likes to spend time with me. We always have a blast together. He started to say that we should not get attached and i understand why. I do not want a relationship with him - despite i have feelings for him - and i understand he owes me nothing and has no obligation to explain me his actions. I never ask. Sometimes he is confusing as he always wants to sleep with me, we spend hours laughing and cuddling in bed, he wants to know all my things, he says he misses me but .. at the same time sometimes i feel he is stepping back. I am struggling because even if i do not want a relationship with him (because different reasons) i do not want to feel like i am just good enough for sex. At least not with him. When he was chasing me he made me feel special, now i do not feel this anymore. I do not know if it is normal to feel this way, it seems contradictory but sometimes i cannot help myself ..He texted me today. I didn't reply, i need to think.What should i do ?? Please i need some external opinion.Thanks!!!
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (21 September 2010):
 Sex is what a FWB relationship is based upon. It's not about anything else, otherwise it would be a definite, exclusive relationship. I understand he may be a great friend and act like he really cares about you, but ultimately he comes to you for sex.
He's backing away because he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, but still wants to have sex with you. Men separate sex and love, so in his mind, he probably thinks putting some distance between you two will get the message across that he doesn't want to be anything more than friends with benefits. He'll continue to have sex with you simply because you continue to offer it.
It would be best to end it and stay just friends.
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