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female
age
41-50,
*en756
writes:So I'm very confused my boyfriend and I have been together for alil over a year now...We started out as friends then about 2 months after that we were both single so we started to be friends with benefits. It fit us both it was great we were there for each when we needed each other while becomming great friends before I knew it he was startin to stay over 4 to 5 times a week. Sex or not we would have a great dinners just snuggle and watch movies. Then about 3 months later he asked if I would be his girlfriend I said sure let's give it a try(I was married for 7 yrs and divorced for 3yrs). So I was skeptacial but thought hey why not..Everything was great he moved in he was always touchin(the little touches like toughin my leg..etc..) and kissin me and o boy the sex was great...we decided to move ..we did at it was great at first.. About 3months after movin, I got this feelin he wasn't being honest about something I didn't know what but thought he was lookin or talkin with other girls. So needless to say we started to argue a lot I started askin more and more questions(like y did u have to go outside to talk on the phone..are you sure there's no one else..He then said he wanted to move out for awhile but still be together.I loved him a lot it was a different love a deeper love something I've never felt before so yes it was hard but I wanted to try anything so keep us together and rekindle what we once had..He would start lyin more and more barley answer his phone leaving for work early then august 12th I found out he's been seeing and sleepin with another women that lived 3 1/2 hrs away! I only know cause she called me and when I confronted him he confessed..we talked about it I decide to try I told him I would forgive him and we will move on..its now nov.and I still don't trust him completly he gets mad if I wanna talk about it..he also states if I hadn't of starting assumin(which I only did when I got the feelin something wasn't right)it would of never happened. Is he blamming me? Is it my fault? I still make remarks o y couldn't you answer your phone o you must b talkin to sum girl..etc.. all this has lowered my selfesteem majorly..I don't feel pretty around him I'm insecure I won't get dressed around him or even take all my clothes off during sex anymore..I am a smartass a lot of the times now to him with cheating remarks(keep in mind) he's gettin sick of it and I don't blame him.. I said I would forgive and forget..but I don't know if I honesty can I'm tryin my hardest I love him and don't wanna live my life without him..am I just sayin those things to hurt him cause of the hurt he caused me? Which he regrets doing and has sad sorry a million times and said it would never happen again..but will it? Has anyone ever been cheated on and stayed in the relationship if so how did you get passed it? I wanna try and save what we have we once had something so special I think if we both love each other we owe it to try our best..we have date nite 3 times a month..which helps..we still live together...plz any advice would be great..ty
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reader, deon +, writes (17 November 2010):
let that shit play it self out he's not new to what he's doing to u trust me you can meet somebody new and have the same friendship your not married stop play house and get out and have fun live your life
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