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writes:Also, I have another question regarding making friends. I am a very social person, and I often find myself taking the initiative, making the first move, inviting other people, etc. I notice other people keeping their distance, being friendly and not taking the friendship any further than they think the other person wants to. Sometimes I find myself trying to take or maybe even push the friendship one step further than the other person wants to, and then I end up getting hurt over it. Which is correct? Which is the best way to make friends? Sometimes, rather than being overly friendly, I see other people doing the opposite, trying not to be too friendly, thinking that this will draw other people to them. Does anyone know what I am talking about? Does anyone have any comments or advice on this? I would really appreciate any help, thoughts, ideas anyone could offer on this subject.Friendly in PHoenix Reply to this Question
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (25 January 2009):
 I feel the best way to meet friends is through an activity that yoyu both enjoy. Casual int he park or at the shops does not work. By seeing that person on a regular basis and getting to know them through small talk is a great way to make new friendships. I know what the other reader meant about trust. I have problems trusting people.
Try to get involved in voluntary work, with the church, dance class etc. I have made many friends this way. They are not very close at the moment but I feel ready to get closer as I get to know a few more intimately.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): Hey! I'm friendly in Phoenix too! I know what youre saying. And yes, the older we get the harder it is, I think. People have their own lives, issues, problems, and also families; they just don't have time to be social with casual acquaintences.
Also, inorder for me to want to socialize with others I have to have an instinct that we share some common interests, qualities, etc. I know some very nice people who I like, but just don't want to hang out with them. Just by communicating with people I can tell when personalities click...and even then, they may not have time to socialize.
Also, some people have trust issues, and have a hard time letting new people into their lives!
If you would like to talk about this further, feel free to email me!
Britt
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