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writes:Hi all,I am in a physical relationship with someone without any word of love ever being said. We are just good friends (with benefits!!! - tho I hate to say this). I am not happy because I am only with him because I love him but he probably doesn't know. I wish I could tell him that I love him and ask how he feels but I can't because I strongly think that he doesn't feel the same same way and I'm very much afraid of his answer. I would appreciate your advice. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): Thank you SillyA and q1605 for your answers.SillyA: I wish I could do just that but even the thought frightens me because I know I don't want to stay with him without love and on the other hand I can't see how it would be possible to live without him. I have a constant feeling that I'm fooling myself and I feel very very scared and insecure all the time. I don't know if its normal that I am unable to speak my mind.q1605: Yes I guess he likes me well enough (as a friend!) all the time, but apart from that its very confusing. He has looked at me a few times as though he loves me - just a few times in this year since we have been together. But I usually don't see him or hear from him for days. As for cheating, all I know is I'm not cheating I don't know much about his private life. Who would he cheat on anyway? me? I mean we are not officially together. I hope I don't make him seem like an uncaring person. He is very nice very honest and responsible but he is just not responsible for me and my feelings because he is not commited to me and anyway I don't want him to feel trapped, I mean if he doesn't love me it's not his fault. I guess thats another reason why I find it hard to speak to him because I don't want him to feel bad.
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reader, SillyA +, writes (25 April 2010):
 I would tell this guy how you feel so you're not haunting yourself with the "what if's" the worst that can happen is for him to not have feelings for you, if that's so, do you really want to be with him anyway? Good luck!
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