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writes:How do I stop other peoples thoughts becoming my thoughts. It's just on this subject strangely enough, but when i hear them telling me what i really think and feel i start to believe it and think maybe i do? ....But really i know i don't.Basically this guy i'm friends with, likes me too (as many people have told me). But i don't want to get involved with them in that way, because i like us just being friends and i don't see us together. But then my friends are always saying to me that deep down i do like him and that i'm just trying to convince myself i don't. When i'm not!? If i liked him what would stop me telling him, especially if he likes me too...Then when i say i don't like him that way and just want to be friends, they start saying 'your mouth says one thing, but your heart says another'. Or they talk about why we'd be so good together and what a great guy he is and that i should give things a go. And sure i admit they make sense, we probably would be good together and he is a great guy. Just not for me, i like things how they are and i don't want to be more than friends, i can't picture him like that!? But hearing them drum on about it and talking about him and saying i'm convincing myself i don't... makes me start to believe them. How can i stop this? And just thinking independently and keep MY own thoughts and opinions?!? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2011): Look OP friends, especially female ones and especially when you're single, will always look for some kind of way of finding you romance or seeing romantic possibilities for you. I know very few women who are happy being single and I know even less that don't think they need to help their single friends find love. It's pretty normal but still a bit weird.
I think that's all this is, you're single and they see you hanging out with a guy who everyone knows likes you and they automatically just think you must be interested in him. I mean if you aren't then why don't you have a boyfriend? That's probably their logic. It's just the way you girls are OP, get used to it because as long as your single you're always going to have friends tell you that you like or should date any guy friend you become close to. You're going to get this your entire life so you may aswell get used to it. Don't let it bother, it's normal.
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reader, BeautyOfTragedies  +, writes (11 June 2011):
 Friends can influence for many things but you voice is all that matters and you have to speak out . If you believe this guy isnt for you then its obvious that he isnt.Your friends may say what they please but its up to you to take what they mean .Just know that in the end it is your life and you control your feelings no one else and if you friends think he so great then let u be the judge of that. Tell them flat out if i want to be with this guy i will and if not then no dont push me into liking him because in the end you will regret it and blame them if you dont speak now.
good luck(:
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