Friends bad influence is ruining my relationship.. Please help

Urgent, HELP ! Well, how to start. My bf and i have dealt with many issues this school year. Some that really could have broke us up and it almost happened. One being my bf smoking with a friend ocassionaly to be social with him and he kept it from me entirely. I was crushed from this. I felt like my heart was ripped up into pieces. The trust was broken and it didn't seem to matter. All this stuff has cause me to suffer a lot and he knows it. It has caused him pain too, but he caused it himself. He knew that this friend whom gave him the cigareetes to be social with was not my favourite guy. I have a very strong dislike for him. Any smart smoker would know that if a person is a non-smoker you don't offer them smokes. Well to make the story short, My bf and i plan to make everything better this summer as we want a future and to get married. But the problem is this friend to very much so help to cause problems is moving here instead of somewheres else. He is moving here because of my bf's fathers buisness, to work for him. Now my bf kept this detial from me until it was final because he knew i was hate it but he still did it. I have an issue with constant reminders of bad things. I honestly can't deal with them and my bf knew. But instead of doing something so that we don't end up in heated arguements like tonights ago, my bf is going a long with it. I know that all my bf has to do is talk to his fatehr about the issue and it will be solved but he won't live up to his mistake. I love my boyfriend a lot but i can't deal with the stress of this. The friend even complained of the rent up here. He turned down a job else where for full time to move here to be friends with my bf. Meanwhile here he may only get 4 days. Im about to snap. I have explained, explained and explained to my bf and all i get is him being so defensive for the friend. He knows that his friend moving here will lead to more heated arguements but he is willingly to deal with it. Im not and he doesn't understand. I need to get through to him fast, very fast like tomorrow. I need to stop this before he moves here and its too late. Help me get this bad influence packing his bags to elsewhere. HELP!!!

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