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writes: Hi guys, just a question. I would appreciate some advice.I have a good friend who talks about herself most of the time. She would call me and tell me about herself, sometimes even asking me to ask her a question so she can tell me more about herself. It has started to bug me maybe because of the way she ends the conversation. She will talk about herself, and then say something like "I'm going to hang up after I tell you about what I..." It feels a little unfair to me, it makes me feel like I am the one occupying her time and making her talk so much. And that my time is so disposable. Most of the things she says are mundane everyday things (but she exaggerates them), and sometimes when I try to offer my opinion, she just talks over me. How do I handle this? She's a good friend and I don't know how to tell her that I feel she's taking me for granted, plus, I have a feeling that she doesn't take to personal feedback very well based on past experiences with her.I would really like some advice because sometimes I find myself zoning out, or worse, pretending to be interested when I am not. Reply to this Question
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 I agree with the previous answer, distance yourself from her. If she calls up just to tell you about her day, tell her you're busy and can't talk. If you're out with her and she rambles on about herself, change the subject. Don't let her talk over you, if she doesn't stop simply say 'excuse me, I'd like to say something'. Hopefully she'll get the hint. If not, I wouldn't consider it much of a loss anyway. You can always make new friends, there are plenty of other people out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): You call that a good friend?! What exactly makes her good? To me she sounds like an incredibly selfish, self absorbed person who doesn't deserve any friends. She is obviously not interested in what is going on in your life, not even in your opinion about her life! You are just an audience for her, not a friend. I think you should distance yourself from her. "Friends" like her are useless, time and energy consuming.
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reader, Avalon  +, writes (29 September 2010):
Tell her it bothers you, and why. If she gets angry, don't be her friend anymore.
Simple.
Why would you let someone who annoys you waste your time?
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