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writes:My friend is planning on having unprotected sex with her boyfriend and I'm seriously worried she'll end up preagant at 17 but she won't listen to me when I tell her to get on the pill of use a condom and I don't know what do to get her to listen? She's crazy in love and lust.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (22 May 2011):
 tell her that if she is hoping to trap him and keep hold of him by getting pregnant it WILL backfired on her. the only one who ends up trapped in situations like these is the woman (usually) when she is left with a baby and the guy goes off and lives his life. she is being a fool
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reader, auntyR +, writes (22 May 2011):
as lovely as it is that you are caring for her and looking out for her, at the end of the day she is responsible for herself. If she goes ahead and has unprotected sex then she really is a fool.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (22 May 2011):
 Hi
You are a very good friend, It's rare these day's that freinds worry so much about eachother. But I agree with Odds here. Other than dropping a hint to her boyfriend there is little you can do, just continue to be there to support her if she does fall pregnant. I wouldn't tell the guy she wants his baby though, because it could backfire. What if he wants to get her pregnant? he will try even harder then knowing she is planing on that too.Also he may tell her what you have said, and she will tell you to get lost and never speak to you again. Do her parents know she is sexually active? because if they do you could also have a quiet word with her mother, she will understand how much you value her daughters frendship by looking out for her this way. as your right 17 is very young to be pregnant, and my guess is she wil be left holding the baby. You have been put in a very difficult situation here. If you cant talk to her mother then all you can do is let your freind choose her path.
let me know how you get on xx
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (22 May 2011):
 Give her a packet of condoms, and tell her to grow up. I don't see what else you can do. Explain to her how there won't be much love or lust coming her way as a pregnant teen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011): You've done what you can. The rest is up to her. It's her life and her mistake to make.
Stay out of it.
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reader, Odds +, writes (22 May 2011):
 She won't listen. So talk to the boyfriend.
Tell the guy she wants his baby. Make an offhand mention of child support. She clearly wants his baby, and I'm willing to bet he doesn't have the desire or means to be a father. Ask him to be discreet about your involvement. She's already quite clearly willing to be dumb, but if he is too, there's not much you can do but hope they can serve as an example to others.
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