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writes: A friend is being deployed to Afghan for 6 months next year and to be honest i'm terrified. I have no experience with this kind of thing and am completely lost as to what to expect. I know you can write letters etc... but i don't know how long it takes for people out there to receive them or if they recieve them at all. Also, can they write email etc to you? Secondly, and this is the worst part for me, i'm terrified of him being hurt or worse. I've asked for advice else where and all people tell me is to "pray and hope for the best" which if i'm honest doesn't really help. He's not even going till near the end of next year and i'm already getting tearful at the thought of it. If anybody out there has been through this or is going through this i would really aprreciate any replies. Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (13 October 2010):
 Ah yes, I've had a friend potential love interest that was deployed to Iraq quite a while back...you can email them but don't expect an email everyday, sometimes the internet connection is bad. Tell him about your day, any sporting events, who won the world series, stanley cup, etc.., ask him about his day, and ask if he needs you to send him any supplies. They run out of supplies over there, one time they ran out rags to dab their sweating foreheads and had used pads to stick on their foreheads to keep the sweat from rolling into their eyes. So send a care package, there's a lot of things in America like Reese's peanut butter cups, or ranch that they miss and want you to send..They also have phones available where they're stationed but they will often be tied up with other men calling their loved ones..Or he can purchase a prepaid phone over there and call when he has spare time. Most of the time they will be very busy, and will be able to call late at night, or be online.
Just be patient and don't miss any unknown phone calls on your phone, check email regularly. Pray every night for his safety, that's all you can do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): Well...I'm only 15 and I have a friend that's 18. He recently became a marine so he'll leave soon...in the next year. Also, he been with my best friend but they broke up because she couldn't commit with him when he's gone...I asked him what would happen if he never finds real love. He just said he doesn't want/need it and loves the nation and want to protect the people the loves. That made me sad...when he's gonna leave, I'll be sure to write him and hope he doesn't get hurt. Just wish him the best and appreciate that he's going into war to protect other people, like you.
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reader, AuntieSnap  +, writes (12 October 2010):
Hi Sweetheart
A relative of mine is out there at the mo for the 3rd time.
Its a war zone so yes, there are risks and of course its dangerous, however you have to stay positive and remember each day that passes is a day nearer to him coming home. This is how we get through it.
You can contact him through www.ebluey.com. Nip into your post office and ask about sending parcels. Its a free service and they will give you a list of things you can and cannot send. Wet-wipes are a given to include. He will be able to call occasionally so focus on that. All the lads out there need to stay positive so no weeping and wailing when he calls, make a list of ineresting things that family and friends have been doing, gossip, silly jokes, latest songs in the charts etc. Get to know some of the wife's and partners of the lads in his regiment and meet up with them for chats.
I hope this helps.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 I've never went through this so i can only imagine how worried you must be feeling talk to him and tell him how you feel. I'm afraid there is'nt alot he can do mind you but it might help if you talk. Try not to stress and yes am afraid all you can do is hope for the best. Write to him dont worry he will recieve your letters and it should only take a few days, am sure he will be able to phone you and ask him about email and stuff am sure he knows more about it so talk to him and tell him your fears.
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