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writes:A friend from work is setting me up with a girl she knows. My work friend has obviously pre-vetted each of us in that we know the other isn't crazy. What's the best way to meet? I was thinking about just asking from her number, calling, and asking her out for a drink. She would obviously be expecting my call. My assumption is anything else would probably feel forced and awkward. Thoughts? Reply to this Question
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (17 October 2014):
 Going out for a coffee or drink is probably the best place to start. You may not get on at all, so sitting through a whole meal could be awkward.
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (17 October 2014):
Yes, I think that calling her up and suggesting a date is the best way forward. Don't do it by text.Make concrete plans when you call her - not just "I'd like to take you out sometime" which is vague and wishy-washy. Fix a time and a date and a place as soon as you can but be prepared to be flexible if she's got a busy schedule.Girls like confident guys so don't be scared to take the lead in suggesting what you might like to do for the date. Of course, you should be flexible and reasonable and take her wishes into consideration when making the date but don't expect her to be the one who choses what you do and where you go.For blind dates, I usually recommend a movie (or a play for the more artistically minded) with a quick meeting for coffee first (and buying popcorn etc) followed by a longer more leisurely drink afterwards. This is because on a BLIND date, you really have no clue what the other person is going to be like and whether you're going to have enough to talk about. Sitting in a pub or cafe for a couple of hours as you struggle to make conversation with someone you have nothing in common with except a mutual acquaintance can be a pretty uncomfortable experience. At least if you watch a movie first, you can then talk about the movie during the after-show drink if you find conversation drying up.Otherwise, make it a quick half-hour date for coffee so you can chat and get to know each other to see if you are compatible enough to go on a further date.Good luck and enjoy
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