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writes:My ex and I were together for four years. We were very serious camouflage our relationship. However,he dumped me three months ago. I don't even know why. I asked for closure yet he gave me nothing. He never contacted me after we broke up. I've been wondering what I did wrong. I'm still suffering from the pain he gave me. Four years isn't a short time. Are men like this? How can he completely erased all our memories and forgot about me all of a sudden?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2013): (This is from the original poster)
Thank you everyone for all the advice. I keep myself busy every day, but when it comes to nights or I'm alone, it seems very difficult for me. Its just so important for me to know why I got dumped. I think it may help me a lot move on. Anyone just I should seek for the reason?
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reader, llifton  +, writes (3 July 2013):
 i'm so sorry for what you're going through. not having closure is a terrible thing. i have been there myself. after four years, i can't imagine doing that to someone. he owed you an explanation. it would have been the decent thing to do.
it's possible he had been over the relationship before he broke up with you, so walking away wasn't as hard for him. and it may have blindsided you, so you didn't see it coming.
the best bit of advice i've ever received: sometimes you won't always have all the answers you want right away, and that's okay. sometimes we don't always have to have all the answers right when we want them. some day we may understand or perhaps we won't. but either way, you'll be okay.
just give it time, sweetheart. you WILL be okay.
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (3 July 2013):
I sorry that you have not received the closure you need. But really what he has to tell you, would it be good enough for you to hear?
I think guys have a much easier time moving on than females. I could be wrong but that is the way it appears. You need to realize you will always have feelings for your ex but in time you will be ok. You need to keep yourself busy and try to be positive. Really nobody is going to give you an answer you want to hear.
I wish I could tell you and ease your pain......that comes from within time.
Good luck!
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