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writes:I just found my husband of 23 years with a ex-girlfriend. They were talking.We were separted about 2 years ago for 9 months and I filed for a divorce. After I filed he found a girlfriend and was seeing her. We got back together and he came back home with me and our 3 kids. The last few months it has been very tough. We have had money issues and he tells me I will not let him in. Anyway, he was late from work yesaterday and I found him at her house. I am not sure what to do. I know I have a lot of anger towards him for varous reasons, but not sure where I go from here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): You need to have a frank talk with him.Ask him outright what is going on.....then make him choose: HER OR YOU. No maybe's.Yes you have a lot of anger. So how about writing down what you want to ask him. In this way you can cover everything and not lose sight of what needs to be discussed.I know in your heart you know that he is cheating. If he is not completely honest then he needs to go. How sure are you that only talking has been happening here? And for how long has he been in contact with her? You need to ask some hard questions but plse be prepared for some answers that you may not be prepared for. Good luck and strength during this time.
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reader, MrOveranalysing  +, writes (8 June 2009):
Take him aside and ask him what's going on. In a calm way explain to him you are concerned he is cheating on you. See how he responds. Its completely understandable that you are worried.
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