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writes: Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 and half years now and i love him very much. The problem is i was sorting some things out the other day only to discover a box which had stuff from his ex girlfriends including letters and photos of them naked. I feel so hurt knowing that he had kept it all hidden away. He assures me that he forgot about it and threw it out straight away. I can't help thinking about it all the time and knowing what they were like. I keep seeing their face in my head and how skinny they were. My boyfriend says im far from fat but i think i am all the time and i hate my body and am always worried about my weight. Now i feel even more consious about it knowing how skinny they were. I find it hard to get naked as i started to get stretch marks over my hips and stomach when i lost weight very quickly as a result to drugs and it gets me down badly. I have only really started getting comfortable infront of him and now its in the back of my mind that his ex used to get naked without question and how perfect her body was. I admitt i have a problem with how i look but this has made it ten times worse.Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): this must have been upsetting for u 2 find but what u have 2 realise is that hes with u now and he obviously loves u alot and loves the way u look! everybody is different shapes and sizes but nothing is perfect! confidence is sexy forget about what u saw and concentrate on your relationship.he doesnt love her because hes with u! there chucked away no so dot let it ruin ur relationship good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2006): I would say leave the guy. You shouldn't have to be with a man who has had hot and passionate sex with woman BETTER looking than you. I mean what the fuck?! He expects you to live with that, and feal good about yourself? Yeah right! It's his fault that he couldn't keep his cock in his pants. You DESERVE BETTER. If you don't want to leave him because you are afraid you will not find someone else. Just stay with him and look for another boyfriend behind his back. Just make sure you use birth control because you don't want to be stuck with a man like that for 18 years. Find a man who let's you KNOW that you are the sexiest woman he's ever slept with.
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A reader, Dee, writes (19 February 2005): Hey girl..nothing is worse than feeling deceived even if he swears on a stack of bibles that he really forgot about those pics...chances are he is being honest..you need to really remember the great time you have had with him till now and put that before those darn pics..all men have had prettier or sexier women than ourselves..no matter who they are with at present time..we cannot hold that against them..if you love this man i would put that far away on the shelf and let it be, but if anything more comes up then i beleive you have a reason to feel insecure..if you do not forget this you will live all alone in that ugly prison of mistrust and only you will suffer...its not easy to do this but its doable through love..good luck girl
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2005): to be sexy you dont have to be skinny,you sound very depressed at the moment you have to learn to love yourself. Every morning look in the mirror and say to yourself im a sexy beautifull woman,treat yourself have your hair done buy some sexy underwear be confidant,do a sexy dance for your man i know you will feel silly and awkward at first, but pretend your an actress playing a part, remember your man is with you because he loves you and its not skinny men love its sexy and confident go on give it a try you will wish you done it sooner,im 43 size 22 and have never felt sexier than i am now its all about confidance men love it, good luck
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