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writes:Hey all!!!Some much needed help please!My bf of 2 years and I broke up just over a month ago.. but we have both continued to see each other every so often. Today we decided to start dating again and just see how it goes. I'm really happy about this. I have thought long and hard over the last month and I am delighted he's decided to try again. ANYWAY.. what I need help with is our date... I am useless at this.He always arranged our dates so I'dlike to do something. Do I arrange for us to go to a place we went to when we first started seeing each other 2 years ago?? Should I dress to impress.. show him what he's been missing??? Or maybe I should just turn up in a coat, heels and something 'nice' ;-) under the coat?? I have no idea lol some suggestions please??
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (14 February 2013):
 I dont agree with sex on the "first" date. You want him to desire you and crave that bond again. Keep him at bay till you know that this relationship can survive a second attempt. You give him what he wants on this first date, shows desperation and the fact that he can treat you badly and get you back in bed.
Also dress seductively but not too much exposure, have fun, laugh and carry on like he is your best friend. Dont hash out the past, Start new but remember not to repeat the short comings on the previous relationship. Show confidence and its important to do fun things and enjoy yourself. Dont work yourself up anddont make it too easy for him. Goodluck
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (14 February 2013):
I would say no to every single one of your ideas and agree with you that you're horrible at it.
What you need to do is go somewhere different, like take dance lessons, go to one of those movie theaters you can get food and drink alcohol at, take a cooking class, etc. Do something other than get dinner, go home and have sex. This time around you need to make him chase you. WAIT! Flirt, act like you are just getting to know him.
BTW I hope you've worked on whatever it was that caused your break up or it'll happen again. You guys need to have a very serious grown up conversation after a few dates.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 February 2013):
 I suggest that you ask him to take you for a canoe ride... and ask the canoe people for ONE paddle.... give it to him and ask him to take you for a spin around the lake.... You'll learn, from that, what he's made of.....
Good luck....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 February 2013):
 I would NOT wear a coat and heals and something "nice" for him. Showing up like that reeks of desperation.
I would dress nice, but not overkill.
Now IF you two keep it together and date for a while, THEN showing up wearing coat & heals (and not much else) might be a bit of fun, but honestly I would wait til the relationship is back on track.
Go on the date and enjoy yourself, not "sell" yourself. Obviously he wanted to try again for a reason, so please don't "try" so hard to show him what he missed in those 30 days....
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